To have more children (with possible CF) or not

[sue35]

I was just saying how I would feel if my parents WILLINGLY chose to get pregnant when they knew the chances. There are so many ways that they could prevent that but they chose to do it anyway. Therefore if I got CF, I would think they willingly gave it to me because they were aware of the risks and did it anyway.

If you can prevent it, I just don't understand why anyone wouldn't choose to prevent it.

The whole getting hit by a car example doesn't really work in this instance because no one can control that. This people can control and choose not to.

I am sorry anyone got upset, I was just saying how I would feel.

 

[sue35]

Also, I am not saying I wouldn't love my parents or anything like that. I am just saying that when I would be really sick there would be a part of me that would be angry at them that they knew this could be prevented but chose not to do anything about it

 

[sue35]

Also, I am not saying I wouldn't love my parents or anything like that. I am just saying that when I would be really sick there would be a part of me that would be angry at them that they knew this could be prevented but chose not to do anything about it

 

[sue35]

Also, I am not saying I wouldn't love my parents or anything like that. I am just saying that when I would be really sick there would be a part of me that would be angry at them that they knew this could be prevented but chose not to do anything about it

 

[sue35]

Also, I am not saying I wouldn't love my parents or anything like that. I am just saying that when I would be really sick there would be a part of me that would be angry at them that they knew this could be prevented but chose not to do anything about it

 

[sue35]

Also, I am not saying I wouldn't love my parents or anything like that. I am just saying that when I would be really sick there would be a part of me that would be angry at them that they knew this could be prevented but chose not to do anything about it

 

[sue35]

Also, I am not saying I wouldn't love my parents or anything like that. I am just saying that when I would be really sick there would be a part of me that would be angry at them that they knew this could be prevented but chose not to do anything about it

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.

Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.

Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.

Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.

Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.

Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.

Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.

Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.

Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.

Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.

Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)

 

[Mommy2Alysa]

Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.

Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.

Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)

 

[JazzysMom]

Just remember that this is one persepective. Maybe I am naive, maybe in denial of some sort, but I dont hate my parents and dont see how I could do so even if they knowingly brought myself or another child into the world having CF. I guess I just see like it is what it is.....their decision right/wrong/good/bad. Yes we are the ones that have to live with it I realize. Maybe I cant comprehend the "what ifs" of the whole scenario, therefore I feel "numb" to the worries of what hasnt taken place. Thats like saying if my parents would have terminated me knowing....how would that make me feel. I dont get my panties in a knot over that either because I just wouldnt be here to worry about it.

 

[JazzysMom]

Just remember that this is one persepective. Maybe I am naive, maybe in denial of some sort, but I dont hate my parents and dont see how I could do so even if they knowingly brought myself or another child into the world having CF. I guess I just see like it is what it is.....their decision right/wrong/good/bad. Yes we are the ones that have to live with it I realize. Maybe I cant comprehend the "what ifs" of the whole scenario, therefore I feel "numb" to the worries of what hasnt taken place. Thats like saying if my parents would have terminated me knowing....how would that make me feel. I dont get my panties in a knot over that either because I just wouldnt be here to worry about it.

 

[JazzysMom]

Just remember that this is one persepective. Maybe I am naive, maybe in denial of some sort, but I dont hate my parents and dont see how I could do so even if they knowingly brought myself or another child into the world having CF. I guess I just see like it is what it is.....their decision right/wrong/good/bad. Yes we are the ones that have to live with it I realize. Maybe I cant comprehend the "what ifs" of the whole scenario, therefore I feel "numb" to the worries of what hasnt taken place. Thats like saying if my parents would have terminated me knowing....how would that make me feel. I dont get my panties in a knot over that either because I just wouldnt be here to worry about it.

 

[JazzysMom]

Just remember that this is one persepective. Maybe I am naive, maybe in denial of some sort, but I dont hate my parents and dont see how I could do so even if they knowingly brought myself or another child into the world having CF. I guess I just see like it is what it is.....their decision right/wrong/good/bad. Yes we are the ones that have to live with it I realize. Maybe I cant comprehend the "what ifs" of the whole scenario, therefore I feel "numb" to the worries of what hasnt taken place. Thats like saying if my parents would have terminated me knowing....how would that make me feel. I dont get my panties in a knot over that either because I just wouldnt be here to worry about it.

 

[JazzysMom]

Just remember that this is one persepective. Maybe I am naive, maybe in denial of some sort, but I dont hate my parents and dont see how I could do so even if they knowingly brought myself or another child into the world having CF. I guess I just see like it is what it is.....their decision right/wrong/good/bad. Yes we are the ones that have to live with it I realize. Maybe I cant comprehend the "what ifs" of the whole scenario, therefore I feel "numb" to the worries of what hasnt taken place. Thats like saying if my parents would have terminated me knowing....how would that make me feel. I dont get my panties in a knot over that either because I just wouldnt be here to worry about it.

 

[JazzysMom]

Just remember that this is one persepective. Maybe I am naive, maybe in denial of some sort, but I dont hate my parents and dont see how I could do so even if they knowingly brought myself or another child into the world having CF. I guess I just see like it is what it is.....their decision right/wrong/good/bad. Yes we are the ones that have to live with it I realize. Maybe I cant comprehend the "what ifs" of the whole scenario, therefore I feel "numb" to the worries of what hasnt taken place. Thats like saying if my parents would have terminated me knowing....how would that make me feel. I dont get my panties in a knot over that either because I just wouldnt be here to worry about it.

 

[lightNlife]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Mommy2Alysa</b></i>

Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.



Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.



Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)</end quote></div>

As a CFer who has a non-CFer sibling, I don't feel like an outsider. Everyone has their own issues, medical, emotional, etc. I don't feel like an outsider because I know I am a loved member of my family.

Also, I don't hate my parents. There have been times when I have felt like a burden to them, but that was my own negativity talking, not theirs.

True story:

When I was little and I did something that would make my dad say "oh Bobber," (his nickname for me) "what are we going to do with you?" I would say "Um...throw me in the trash can?" Dad always said "We don't throw little girls in the trash can, no matter what. We love them too much." He'd give me a big hug that reassured me and let me know that although the trash can scenario was silly, still he wanted me to know that no matter what, I was NEVER unworthy or "trash" of any type.

I can honestly say that there has never been a single day when I have been jealous of my sister for not having CF. I'm pretty certain that she doesn't "feel sorry for me" for having CF. We are sisters. We have some genetic material in common, but above all, we're family. And quite an awesome one at that.