wedding ?

[beleache]

Hey Bella,

Here's my take on it.. So the first time i married we planned to have a biggish wedding but i was so sick and needed my fiancee's health coverage (mistake) because i was so sick at the time (i didnt get dxd till i was 44) We were planning to have the wedding that summer but it never happened.. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> i was kinda bummed but life goes on.. )

Got divorced after being married almost ten years (had 2 sons w/ him) Met my current husband in 1985 and after being together for 2 1/2 years we decided to get married (he wanted children) At that time in my life i was OK w/ just being together, didnt want all the marriage drama ,lol..

This was his first marriage (of course it was he is 15 yrs younger than me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) so he wanted a wedding. I was not crazy about the idea (mostly because of our age difference,it was hard for me) but felt he shouldnt be cheated out of it if that was what he wanted.. So we went ahead full force , saved for 1 1/2 yrs and had a big wedding.. It was tough but i have to admit i am so happy that i did it <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Oh yeah and we have 2 sons together and i am a Mima to a 2 y/o grandson <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

If you guys are planning your wedding you can make it what you want !!!!! You can make it as big or as small as you want, big dress or simple dress, the music you want, whatever, that is the fun part <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Have any family members offered to help w/ the costs?

I hope you figure out what you both want and enjoy such a special day in your lives.. Take care , keep us posted and God Bless....


<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

 

[beleache]

Hey Bella,

Here's my take on it.. So the first time i married we planned to have a biggish wedding but i was so sick and needed my fiancee's health coverage (mistake) because i was so sick at the time (i didnt get dxd till i was 44) We were planning to have the wedding that summer but it never happened.. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> i was kinda bummed but life goes on.. )

Got divorced after being married almost ten years (had 2 sons w/ him) Met my current husband in 1985 and after being together for 2 1/2 years we decided to get married (he wanted children) At that time in my life i was OK w/ just being together, didnt want all the marriage drama ,lol..

This was his first marriage (of course it was he is 15 yrs younger than me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) so he wanted a wedding. I was not crazy about the idea (mostly because of our age difference,it was hard for me) but felt he shouldnt be cheated out of it if that was what he wanted.. So we went ahead full force , saved for 1 1/2 yrs and had a big wedding.. It was tough but i have to admit i am so happy that i did it <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Oh yeah and we have 2 sons together and i am a Mima to a 2 y/o grandson <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

If you guys are planning your wedding you can make it what you want !!!!! You can make it as big or as small as you want, big dress or simple dress, the music you want, whatever, that is the fun part <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Have any family members offered to help w/ the costs?

I hope you figure out what you both want and enjoy such a special day in your lives.. Take care , keep us posted and God Bless....


<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

 

[beleache]

Hey Bella,

Here's my take on it.. So the first time i married we planned to have a biggish wedding but i was so sick and needed my fiancee's health coverage (mistake) because i was so sick at the time (i didnt get dxd till i was 44) We were planning to have the wedding that summer but it never happened.. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> i was kinda bummed but life goes on.. )

Got divorced after being married almost ten years (had 2 sons w/ him) Met my current husband in 1985 and after being together for 2 1/2 years we decided to get married (he wanted children) At that time in my life i was OK w/ just being together, didnt want all the marriage drama ,lol..

This was his first marriage (of course it was he is 15 yrs younger than me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) so he wanted a wedding. I was not crazy about the idea (mostly because of our age difference,it was hard for me) but felt he shouldnt be cheated out of it if that was what he wanted.. So we went ahead full force , saved for 1 1/2 yrs and had a big wedding.. It was tough but i have to admit i am so happy that i did it <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Oh yeah and we have 2 sons together and i am a Mima to a 2 y/o grandson <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

If you guys are planning your wedding you can make it what you want !!!!! You can make it as big or as small as you want, big dress or simple dress, the music you want, whatever, that is the fun part <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Have any family members offered to help w/ the costs?

I hope you figure out what you both want and enjoy such a special day in your lives.. Take care , keep us posted and God Bless....


<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

 

[beleache]

Hey Bella,

Here's my take on it.. So the first time i married we planned to have a biggish wedding but i was so sick and needed my fiancee's health coverage (mistake) because i was so sick at the time (i didnt get dxd till i was 44) We were planning to have the wedding that summer but it never happened.. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> i was kinda bummed but life goes on.. )

Got divorced after being married almost ten years (had 2 sons w/ him) Met my current husband in 1985 and after being together for 2 1/2 years we decided to get married (he wanted children) At that time in my life i was OK w/ just being together, didnt want all the marriage drama ,lol..

This was his first marriage (of course it was he is 15 yrs younger than me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) so he wanted a wedding. I was not crazy about the idea (mostly because of our age difference,it was hard for me) but felt he shouldnt be cheated out of it if that was what he wanted.. So we went ahead full force , saved for 1 1/2 yrs and had a big wedding.. It was tough but i have to admit i am so happy that i did it <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Oh yeah and we have 2 sons together and i am a Mima to a 2 y/o grandson <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

If you guys are planning your wedding you can make it what you want !!!!! You can make it as big or as small as you want, big dress or simple dress, the music you want, whatever, that is the fun part <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Have any family members offered to help w/ the costs?

I hope you figure out what you both want and enjoy such a special day in your lives.. Take care , keep us posted and God Bless....


<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni

 

[beleache]

Hey Bella,
<br />
<br /> Here's my take on it.. So the first time i married we planned to have a biggish wedding but i was so sick and needed my fiancee's health coverage (mistake) because i was so sick at the time (i didnt get dxd till i was 44) We were planning to have the wedding that summer but it never happened.. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> i was kinda bummed but life goes on.. )
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<br /> Got divorced after being married almost ten years (had 2 sons w/ him) Met my current husband in 1985 and after being together for 2 1/2 years we decided to get married (he wanted children) At that time in my life i was OK w/ just being together, didnt want all the marriage drama ,lol..
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<br /> This was his first marriage (of course it was he is 15 yrs younger than me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) so he wanted a wedding. I was not crazy about the idea (mostly because of our age difference,it was hard for me) but felt he shouldnt be cheated out of it if that was what he wanted.. So we went ahead full force , saved for 1 1/2 yrs and had a big wedding.. It was tough but i have to admit i am so happy that i did it <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
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<br /> Oh yeah and we have 2 sons together and i am a Mima to a 2 y/o grandson <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
<br />
<br />If you guys are planning your wedding you can make it what you want !!!!! You can make it as big or as small as you want, big dress or simple dress, the music you want, whatever, that is the fun part <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Have any family members offered to help w/ the costs?
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<br /> I hope you figure out what you both want and enjoy such a special day in your lives.. Take care , keep us posted and God Bless....
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<br /><img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0"> joni
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[adamsants]

okay being catholic i understand your parents wanting you to get married in the church....that being said have something small and then a party to celebrate the wedding and a goodbye party all at once.

My friend just got married in august and the whole wedding did not cost much as everyone pitched in.

Congrats....

 

[adamsants]

okay being catholic i understand your parents wanting you to get married in the church....that being said have something small and then a party to celebrate the wedding and a goodbye party all at once.

My friend just got married in august and the whole wedding did not cost much as everyone pitched in.

Congrats....

 

[adamsants]

okay being catholic i understand your parents wanting you to get married in the church....that being said have something small and then a party to celebrate the wedding and a goodbye party all at once.

My friend just got married in august and the whole wedding did not cost much as everyone pitched in.

Congrats....

 

[adamsants]

okay being catholic i understand your parents wanting you to get married in the church....that being said have something small and then a party to celebrate the wedding and a goodbye party all at once.

My friend just got married in august and the whole wedding did not cost much as everyone pitched in.

Congrats....

 

[adamsants]

okay being catholic i understand your parents wanting you to get married in the church....that being said have something small and then a party to celebrate the wedding and a goodbye party all at once.
<br />
<br />My friend just got married in august and the whole wedding did not cost much as everyone pitched in.
<br />
<br />Congrats....

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Speaking from the viewpoint of a "grandma", I hope you can find a compromise...I know how much your mom, and maybe, especially your dad, will want to walk you down the aisle...But it is YOUR life and your decision...Have you talked it over with your parents? You may be surprised, they may be on your side with some compromise...

My fiancee and I were so poor, and my mom was a single mom. My wedding was in the 70's, and was a somewhat "hippie" wedding. I bought a "peasant" dress off the rack for $35, it was off-white, because I didn't believe in wearing white...I had a garland of roses and ribbons in my hair...and a small bouquet. We got married in a Unitarian Church because it had beautiful stained glass windows and at the time I was agnostic--didn't know if I believed in God or not...

The most money we probably spent on the wedding was $300. Of course that was 30yrs ago. We rented a motel room and went out to eat on the money we got as wedding gifts.

You have lots of options, you could find a little chapel, or a gazebo, or even a rose garden...all that matters is that you look at each other and say the words that bond you for a lifetime...It is nice to have memories to look back on, and to have pictures to remember...

You can always have a party afterwards to celebrate...Good luck, and congrats.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Speaking from the viewpoint of a "grandma", I hope you can find a compromise...I know how much your mom, and maybe, especially your dad, will want to walk you down the aisle...But it is YOUR life and your decision...Have you talked it over with your parents? You may be surprised, they may be on your side with some compromise...

My fiancee and I were so poor, and my mom was a single mom. My wedding was in the 70's, and was a somewhat "hippie" wedding. I bought a "peasant" dress off the rack for $35, it was off-white, because I didn't believe in wearing white...I had a garland of roses and ribbons in my hair...and a small bouquet. We got married in a Unitarian Church because it had beautiful stained glass windows and at the time I was agnostic--didn't know if I believed in God or not...

The most money we probably spent on the wedding was $300. Of course that was 30yrs ago. We rented a motel room and went out to eat on the money we got as wedding gifts.

You have lots of options, you could find a little chapel, or a gazebo, or even a rose garden...all that matters is that you look at each other and say the words that bond you for a lifetime...It is nice to have memories to look back on, and to have pictures to remember...

You can always have a party afterwards to celebrate...Good luck, and congrats.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Speaking from the viewpoint of a "grandma", I hope you can find a compromise...I know how much your mom, and maybe, especially your dad, will want to walk you down the aisle...But it is YOUR life and your decision...Have you talked it over with your parents? You may be surprised, they may be on your side with some compromise...

My fiancee and I were so poor, and my mom was a single mom. My wedding was in the 70's, and was a somewhat "hippie" wedding. I bought a "peasant" dress off the rack for $35, it was off-white, because I didn't believe in wearing white...I had a garland of roses and ribbons in my hair...and a small bouquet. We got married in a Unitarian Church because it had beautiful stained glass windows and at the time I was agnostic--didn't know if I believed in God or not...

The most money we probably spent on the wedding was $300. Of course that was 30yrs ago. We rented a motel room and went out to eat on the money we got as wedding gifts.

You have lots of options, you could find a little chapel, or a gazebo, or even a rose garden...all that matters is that you look at each other and say the words that bond you for a lifetime...It is nice to have memories to look back on, and to have pictures to remember...

You can always have a party afterwards to celebrate...Good luck, and congrats.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Speaking from the viewpoint of a "grandma", I hope you can find a compromise...I know how much your mom, and maybe, especially your dad, will want to walk you down the aisle...But it is YOUR life and your decision...Have you talked it over with your parents? You may be surprised, they may be on your side with some compromise...

My fiancee and I were so poor, and my mom was a single mom. My wedding was in the 70's, and was a somewhat "hippie" wedding. I bought a "peasant" dress off the rack for $35, it was off-white, because I didn't believe in wearing white...I had a garland of roses and ribbons in my hair...and a small bouquet. We got married in a Unitarian Church because it had beautiful stained glass windows and at the time I was agnostic--didn't know if I believed in God or not...

The most money we probably spent on the wedding was $300. Of course that was 30yrs ago. We rented a motel room and went out to eat on the money we got as wedding gifts.

You have lots of options, you could find a little chapel, or a gazebo, or even a rose garden...all that matters is that you look at each other and say the words that bond you for a lifetime...It is nice to have memories to look back on, and to have pictures to remember...

You can always have a party afterwards to celebrate...Good luck, and congrats.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Speaking from the viewpoint of a "grandma", I hope you can find a compromise...I know how much your mom, and maybe, especially your dad, will want to walk you down the aisle...But it is YOUR life and your decision...Have you talked it over with your parents? You may be surprised, they may be on your side with some compromise...
<br />
<br />My fiancee and I were so poor, and my mom was a single mom. My wedding was in the 70's, and was a somewhat "hippie" wedding. I bought a "peasant" dress off the rack for $35, it was off-white, because I didn't believe in wearing white...I had a garland of roses and ribbons in my hair...and a small bouquet. We got married in a Unitarian Church because it had beautiful stained glass windows and at the time I was agnostic--didn't know if I believed in God or not...
<br />
<br />The most money we probably spent on the wedding was $300. Of course that was 30yrs ago. We rented a motel room and went out to eat on the money we got as wedding gifts.
<br />
<br />You have lots of options, you could find a little chapel, or a gazebo, or even a rose garden...all that matters is that you look at each other and say the words that bond you for a lifetime...It is nice to have memories to look back on, and to have pictures to remember...
<br />
<br />You can always have a party afterwards to celebrate...Good luck, and congrats.

 

[Nightwriter]

Hi Isabella,

I also cringe at the whole big wedding, poofy dresses, drunk uncles, the whole creepy garter ritual... all of it. I'm happily unmarried to my boyfriend of 14 years, so maybe my opinion doesn't count much anyway.

However, the fact that you said that all your family parties are fun -- ya gotta have a party. Have an anti-wedding wedding. Be married at an amusement park, underwater, skydiving, on the beach, at the place you met, on a boat, in a favorite restaurant...any place that you and your boyfriend love.

I knew someone who had a Halloween wedding. All Halloween decorations, a black wedding dress...people loved it. Someone else had a simple ceremony in their beautifully decorated living room, then took 20 people to a tiny private dining room in a fabulous hotel. I went to another great small wedding outdoors at an incredible winery and the ceremony had rituals taken from several religions (both ceremony and reception in the same area). Another friend invited lots of people to Las Vegas for a weekend wedding that was small, inexpensive, and fun.

I went to one friend's wedding in her backyard, where they served all vegetarian food. Another really great party that wasn't a wedding, but could have been was -- a catered dessert and champaigne party. They had the finest desserts they could find -- a chocoholic's dream. Maybe my favorite party ever.

Want to keep expenses down? Have under 50 people -- the people you care about most. I promise you for years to come you will look at your photos and smile.

 

[Nightwriter]

Hi Isabella,

I also cringe at the whole big wedding, poofy dresses, drunk uncles, the whole creepy garter ritual... all of it. I'm happily unmarried to my boyfriend of 14 years, so maybe my opinion doesn't count much anyway.

However, the fact that you said that all your family parties are fun -- ya gotta have a party. Have an anti-wedding wedding. Be married at an amusement park, underwater, skydiving, on the beach, at the place you met, on a boat, in a favorite restaurant...any place that you and your boyfriend love.

I knew someone who had a Halloween wedding. All Halloween decorations, a black wedding dress...people loved it. Someone else had a simple ceremony in their beautifully decorated living room, then took 20 people to a tiny private dining room in a fabulous hotel. I went to another great small wedding outdoors at an incredible winery and the ceremony had rituals taken from several religions (both ceremony and reception in the same area). Another friend invited lots of people to Las Vegas for a weekend wedding that was small, inexpensive, and fun.

I went to one friend's wedding in her backyard, where they served all vegetarian food. Another really great party that wasn't a wedding, but could have been was -- a catered dessert and champaigne party. They had the finest desserts they could find -- a chocoholic's dream. Maybe my favorite party ever.

Want to keep expenses down? Have under 50 people -- the people you care about most. I promise you for years to come you will look at your photos and smile.

 

[Nightwriter]

Hi Isabella,

I also cringe at the whole big wedding, poofy dresses, drunk uncles, the whole creepy garter ritual... all of it. I'm happily unmarried to my boyfriend of 14 years, so maybe my opinion doesn't count much anyway.

However, the fact that you said that all your family parties are fun -- ya gotta have a party. Have an anti-wedding wedding. Be married at an amusement park, underwater, skydiving, on the beach, at the place you met, on a boat, in a favorite restaurant...any place that you and your boyfriend love.

I knew someone who had a Halloween wedding. All Halloween decorations, a black wedding dress...people loved it. Someone else had a simple ceremony in their beautifully decorated living room, then took 20 people to a tiny private dining room in a fabulous hotel. I went to another great small wedding outdoors at an incredible winery and the ceremony had rituals taken from several religions (both ceremony and reception in the same area). Another friend invited lots of people to Las Vegas for a weekend wedding that was small, inexpensive, and fun.

I went to one friend's wedding in her backyard, where they served all vegetarian food. Another really great party that wasn't a wedding, but could have been was -- a catered dessert and champaigne party. They had the finest desserts they could find -- a chocoholic's dream. Maybe my favorite party ever.

Want to keep expenses down? Have under 50 people -- the people you care about most. I promise you for years to come you will look at your photos and smile.

 

[Nightwriter]

Hi Isabella,

I also cringe at the whole big wedding, poofy dresses, drunk uncles, the whole creepy garter ritual... all of it. I'm happily unmarried to my boyfriend of 14 years, so maybe my opinion doesn't count much anyway.

However, the fact that you said that all your family parties are fun -- ya gotta have a party. Have an anti-wedding wedding. Be married at an amusement park, underwater, skydiving, on the beach, at the place you met, on a boat, in a favorite restaurant...any place that you and your boyfriend love.

I knew someone who had a Halloween wedding. All Halloween decorations, a black wedding dress...people loved it. Someone else had a simple ceremony in their beautifully decorated living room, then took 20 people to a tiny private dining room in a fabulous hotel. I went to another great small wedding outdoors at an incredible winery and the ceremony had rituals taken from several religions (both ceremony and reception in the same area). Another friend invited lots of people to Las Vegas for a weekend wedding that was small, inexpensive, and fun.

I went to one friend's wedding in her backyard, where they served all vegetarian food. Another really great party that wasn't a wedding, but could have been was -- a catered dessert and champaigne party. They had the finest desserts they could find -- a chocoholic's dream. Maybe my favorite party ever.

Want to keep expenses down? Have under 50 people -- the people you care about most. I promise you for years to come you will look at your photos and smile.

 

[Nightwriter]

Hi Isabella,
<br />
<br />I also cringe at the whole big wedding, poofy dresses, drunk uncles, the whole creepy garter ritual... all of it. I'm happily unmarried to my boyfriend of 14 years, so maybe my opinion doesn't count much anyway.
<br />
<br />However, the fact that you said that all your family parties are fun -- ya gotta have a party. Have an anti-wedding wedding. Be married at an amusement park, underwater, skydiving, on the beach, at the place you met, on a boat, in a favorite restaurant...any place that you and your boyfriend love.
<br />
<br />I knew someone who had a Halloween wedding. All Halloween decorations, a black wedding dress...people loved it. Someone else had a simple ceremony in their beautifully decorated living room, then took 20 people to a tiny private dining room in a fabulous hotel. I went to another great small wedding outdoors at an incredible winery and the ceremony had rituals taken from several religions (both ceremony and reception in the same area). Another friend invited lots of people to Las Vegas for a weekend wedding that was small, inexpensive, and fun.
<br />
<br />I went to one friend's wedding in her backyard, where they served all vegetarian food. Another really great party that wasn't a wedding, but could have been was -- a catered dessert and champaigne party. They had the finest desserts they could find -- a chocoholic's dream. Maybe my favorite party ever.
<br />
<br />Want to keep expenses down? Have under 50 people -- the people you care about most. I promise you for years to come you will look at your photos and smile.