When you thought about having children what did you do?

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julie

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Amy, I don't think you hold yourself back from much- you are a pretty out there person. But everyone has different thoughts about it, and I do see it as you holding yourself back and letting your CF limit what you do REGARDING a family. I think you are missing out on a lot. I understand your point and reasonings, even though I don't agree with them (if I were in your shoes, I'm pretty sure I'd still feel the same way), they are yours and you are entitled to them.

I don't think Kris' post warranted you being so rude and snotty though. It's just her opinion of how she sees that your CF limits you. Let's not let another converstation that you are a part of blow up into something ugly.... please.
 
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julie

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Amy, I don't think you hold yourself back from much- you are a pretty out there person. But everyone has different thoughts about it, and I do see it as you holding yourself back and letting your CF limit what you do REGARDING a family. I think you are missing out on a lot. I understand your point and reasonings, even though I don't agree with them (if I were in your shoes, I'm pretty sure I'd still feel the same way), they are yours and you are entitled to them.

I don't think Kris' post warranted you being so rude and snotty though. It's just her opinion of how she sees that your CF limits you. Let's not let another converstation that you are a part of blow up into something ugly.... please.
 
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julie

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Amy, I don't think you hold yourself back from much- you are a pretty out there person. But everyone has different thoughts about it, and I do see it as you holding yourself back and letting your CF limit what you do REGARDING a family. I think you are missing out on a lot. I understand your point and reasonings, even though I don't agree with them (if I were in your shoes, I'm pretty sure I'd still feel the same way), they are yours and you are entitled to them.

I don't think Kris' post warranted you being so rude and snotty though. It's just her opinion of how she sees that your CF limits you. Let's not let another converstation that you are a part of blow up into something ugly.... please.
 
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julie

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Amy, I don't think you hold yourself back from much- you are a pretty out there person. But everyone has different thoughts about it, and I do see it as you holding yourself back and letting your CF limit what you do REGARDING a family. I think you are missing out on a lot. I understand your point and reasonings, even though I don't agree with them (if I were in your shoes, I'm pretty sure I'd still feel the same way), they are yours and you are entitled to them.

I don't think Kris' post warranted you being so rude and snotty though. It's just her opinion of how she sees that your CF limits you. Let's not let another converstation that you are a part of blow up into something ugly.... please.
 
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julie

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Amy, I don't think you hold yourself back from much- you are a pretty out there person. But everyone has different thoughts about it, and I do see it as you holding yourself back and letting your CF limit what you do REGARDING a family. I think you are missing out on a lot. I understand your point and reasonings, even though I don't agree with them (if I were in your shoes, I'm pretty sure I'd still feel the same way), they are yours and you are entitled to them.

I don't think Kris' post warranted you being so rude and snotty though. It's just her opinion of how she sees that your CF limits you. Let's not let another converstation that you are a part of blow up into something ugly.... please.
 
J

julie

New member
Amy, I don't think you hold yourself back from much- you are a pretty out there person. But everyone has different thoughts about it, and I do see it as you holding yourself back and letting your CF limit what you do REGARDING a family. I think you are missing out on a lot. I understand your point and reasonings, even though I don't agree with them (if I were in your shoes, I'm pretty sure I'd still feel the same way), they are yours and you are entitled to them.

I don't think Kris' post warranted you being so rude and snotty though. It's just her opinion of how she sees that your CF limits you. Let's not let another converstation that you are a part of blow up into something ugly.... please.
 
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mamerth

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My husband and I went through genetic counseling (extensive) and they said that due to the fact that I had a rare mutation, we were pretty safe to try and have children.

My husband was more than willing to do whatever was required of him--testing. We have fertility issues so having a baby was going to be a miracle. Well, we had a miracle... a beautiful boy.

My son is well educated in his mommy's disease. We will tell him he is a carrier as soon as he understands what that means.

We were concerned about hare lip and cheft palate (spell??) as well-- it runs in my family.

Some would see me as selfish-- wanting a child. I am adopted and I wanted to know what it was like to have my own flesh and blood. Since the odds looked good (based on the counselors advice-- I decided to be selfish).
 
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mamerth

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My husband and I went through genetic counseling (extensive) and they said that due to the fact that I had a rare mutation, we were pretty safe to try and have children.

My husband was more than willing to do whatever was required of him--testing. We have fertility issues so having a baby was going to be a miracle. Well, we had a miracle... a beautiful boy.

My son is well educated in his mommy's disease. We will tell him he is a carrier as soon as he understands what that means.

We were concerned about hare lip and cheft palate (spell??) as well-- it runs in my family.

Some would see me as selfish-- wanting a child. I am adopted and I wanted to know what it was like to have my own flesh and blood. Since the odds looked good (based on the counselors advice-- I decided to be selfish).
 
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mamerth

New member
My husband and I went through genetic counseling (extensive) and they said that due to the fact that I had a rare mutation, we were pretty safe to try and have children.

My husband was more than willing to do whatever was required of him--testing. We have fertility issues so having a baby was going to be a miracle. Well, we had a miracle... a beautiful boy.

My son is well educated in his mommy's disease. We will tell him he is a carrier as soon as he understands what that means.

We were concerned about hare lip and cheft palate (spell??) as well-- it runs in my family.

Some would see me as selfish-- wanting a child. I am adopted and I wanted to know what it was like to have my own flesh and blood. Since the odds looked good (based on the counselors advice-- I decided to be selfish).
 
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mamerth

New member
My husband and I went through genetic counseling (extensive) and they said that due to the fact that I had a rare mutation, we were pretty safe to try and have children.

My husband was more than willing to do whatever was required of him--testing. We have fertility issues so having a baby was going to be a miracle. Well, we had a miracle... a beautiful boy.

My son is well educated in his mommy's disease. We will tell him he is a carrier as soon as he understands what that means.

We were concerned about hare lip and cheft palate (spell??) as well-- it runs in my family.

Some would see me as selfish-- wanting a child. I am adopted and I wanted to know what it was like to have my own flesh and blood. Since the odds looked good (based on the counselors advice-- I decided to be selfish).
 
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mamerth

New member
My husband and I went through genetic counseling (extensive) and they said that due to the fact that I had a rare mutation, we were pretty safe to try and have children.

My husband was more than willing to do whatever was required of him--testing. We have fertility issues so having a baby was going to be a miracle. Well, we had a miracle... a beautiful boy.

My son is well educated in his mommy's disease. We will tell him he is a carrier as soon as he understands what that means.

We were concerned about hare lip and cheft palate (spell??) as well-- it runs in my family.

Some would see me as selfish-- wanting a child. I am adopted and I wanted to know what it was like to have my own flesh and blood. Since the odds looked good (based on the counselors advice-- I decided to be selfish).
 
M

mamerth

New member
My husband and I went through genetic counseling (extensive) and they said that due to the fact that I had a rare mutation, we were pretty safe to try and have children.

My husband was more than willing to do whatever was required of him--testing. We have fertility issues so having a baby was going to be a miracle. Well, we had a miracle... a beautiful boy.

My son is well educated in his mommy's disease. We will tell him he is a carrier as soon as he understands what that means.

We were concerned about hare lip and cheft palate (spell??) as well-- it runs in my family.

Some would see me as selfish-- wanting a child. I am adopted and I wanted to know what it was like to have my own flesh and blood. Since the odds looked good (based on the counselors advice-- I decided to be selfish).
 
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beleache

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Here we go again <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> First thing off the bat, I will say I'm considered mild for

c/f.. I have 4 sons, ages 32, 28, 17 & 14.. I had all 4 children before I got dx..

Although I certainly knew there was something wrong w/ me.. (Several surgeries,

hosp. stays... just plain sick, lots of belly issues and some lung issues) Of course

If I knew I had c/f, I would have had my husband(s) tested... Yes I would tell my

Children if they carry the gene... so far my oldest has been tested and he does

(He has one child) I'm going to have my 17 & 14 y/o tested, so they can know if

they carry the gene or not.. That's very important, as far as I'm concerned.. I

would just like to add that, many of us have children, and I'll speak for myself

here I do my best to be a good parent.. You could be the healthiest person on the

face of the earth, and still SUCK as a parent... I love my children, and I think I try

as hard as I can to stay as healthy for myself, my husband, but most of all for my

sons (and now my little grandson) Amy I respect you for your knowledge (we all

know you have it going on) but when you make a comment like "I have decided

to be selfless, think outside myself and not just about what I want" to me that is a

putdown to others that have made a different choice... There are many ppl in this

world that shouldn't be parents and yes everything should be taken into

consideration.. But if a couple feels they can handle it, after weighing everything

carefully, then I don't think it makes them selfish... just my thoughts <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Joni 55 y/o f w c/f
 
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beleache

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Here we go again <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> First thing off the bat, I will say I'm considered mild for

c/f.. I have 4 sons, ages 32, 28, 17 & 14.. I had all 4 children before I got dx..

Although I certainly knew there was something wrong w/ me.. (Several surgeries,

hosp. stays... just plain sick, lots of belly issues and some lung issues) Of course

If I knew I had c/f, I would have had my husband(s) tested... Yes I would tell my

Children if they carry the gene... so far my oldest has been tested and he does

(He has one child) I'm going to have my 17 & 14 y/o tested, so they can know if

they carry the gene or not.. That's very important, as far as I'm concerned.. I

would just like to add that, many of us have children, and I'll speak for myself

here I do my best to be a good parent.. You could be the healthiest person on the

face of the earth, and still SUCK as a parent... I love my children, and I think I try

as hard as I can to stay as healthy for myself, my husband, but most of all for my

sons (and now my little grandson) Amy I respect you for your knowledge (we all

know you have it going on) but when you make a comment like "I have decided

to be selfless, think outside myself and not just about what I want" to me that is a

putdown to others that have made a different choice... There are many ppl in this

world that shouldn't be parents and yes everything should be taken into

consideration.. But if a couple feels they can handle it, after weighing everything

carefully, then I don't think it makes them selfish... just my thoughts <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Joni 55 y/o f w c/f
 
B

beleache

New member
Here we go again <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> First thing off the bat, I will say I'm considered mild for

c/f.. I have 4 sons, ages 32, 28, 17 & 14.. I had all 4 children before I got dx..

Although I certainly knew there was something wrong w/ me.. (Several surgeries,

hosp. stays... just plain sick, lots of belly issues and some lung issues) Of course

If I knew I had c/f, I would have had my husband(s) tested... Yes I would tell my

Children if they carry the gene... so far my oldest has been tested and he does

(He has one child) I'm going to have my 17 & 14 y/o tested, so they can know if

they carry the gene or not.. That's very important, as far as I'm concerned.. I

would just like to add that, many of us have children, and I'll speak for myself

here I do my best to be a good parent.. You could be the healthiest person on the

face of the earth, and still SUCK as a parent... I love my children, and I think I try

as hard as I can to stay as healthy for myself, my husband, but most of all for my

sons (and now my little grandson) Amy I respect you for your knowledge (we all

know you have it going on) but when you make a comment like "I have decided

to be selfless, think outside myself and not just about what I want" to me that is a

putdown to others that have made a different choice... There are many ppl in this

world that shouldn't be parents and yes everything should be taken into

consideration.. But if a couple feels they can handle it, after weighing everything

carefully, then I don't think it makes them selfish... just my thoughts <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Joni 55 y/o f w c/f
 
B

beleache

New member
Here we go again <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> First thing off the bat, I will say I'm considered mild for

c/f.. I have 4 sons, ages 32, 28, 17 & 14.. I had all 4 children before I got dx..

Although I certainly knew there was something wrong w/ me.. (Several surgeries,

hosp. stays... just plain sick, lots of belly issues and some lung issues) Of course

If I knew I had c/f, I would have had my husband(s) tested... Yes I would tell my

Children if they carry the gene... so far my oldest has been tested and he does

(He has one child) I'm going to have my 17 & 14 y/o tested, so they can know if

they carry the gene or not.. That's very important, as far as I'm concerned.. I

would just like to add that, many of us have children, and I'll speak for myself

here I do my best to be a good parent.. You could be the healthiest person on the

face of the earth, and still SUCK as a parent... I love my children, and I think I try

as hard as I can to stay as healthy for myself, my husband, but most of all for my

sons (and now my little grandson) Amy I respect you for your knowledge (we all

know you have it going on) but when you make a comment like "I have decided

to be selfless, think outside myself and not just about what I want" to me that is a

putdown to others that have made a different choice... There are many ppl in this

world that shouldn't be parents and yes everything should be taken into

consideration.. But if a couple feels they can handle it, after weighing everything

carefully, then I don't think it makes them selfish... just my thoughts <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Joni 55 y/o f w c/f
 
B

beleache

New member
Here we go again <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> First thing off the bat, I will say I'm considered mild for

c/f.. I have 4 sons, ages 32, 28, 17 & 14.. I had all 4 children before I got dx..

Although I certainly knew there was something wrong w/ me.. (Several surgeries,

hosp. stays... just plain sick, lots of belly issues and some lung issues) Of course

If I knew I had c/f, I would have had my husband(s) tested... Yes I would tell my

Children if they carry the gene... so far my oldest has been tested and he does

(He has one child) I'm going to have my 17 & 14 y/o tested, so they can know if

they carry the gene or not.. That's very important, as far as I'm concerned.. I

would just like to add that, many of us have children, and I'll speak for myself

here I do my best to be a good parent.. You could be the healthiest person on the

face of the earth, and still SUCK as a parent... I love my children, and I think I try

as hard as I can to stay as healthy for myself, my husband, but most of all for my

sons (and now my little grandson) Amy I respect you for your knowledge (we all

know you have it going on) but when you make a comment like "I have decided

to be selfless, think outside myself and not just about what I want" to me that is a

putdown to others that have made a different choice... There are many ppl in this

world that shouldn't be parents and yes everything should be taken into

consideration.. But if a couple feels they can handle it, after weighing everything

carefully, then I don't think it makes them selfish... just my thoughts <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Joni 55 y/o f w c/f
 
B

beleache

New member
Here we go again <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> First thing off the bat, I will say I'm considered mild for

c/f.. I have 4 sons, ages 32, 28, 17 & 14.. I had all 4 children before I got dx..

Although I certainly knew there was something wrong w/ me.. (Several surgeries,

hosp. stays... just plain sick, lots of belly issues and some lung issues) Of course

If I knew I had c/f, I would have had my husband(s) tested... Yes I would tell my

Children if they carry the gene... so far my oldest has been tested and he does

(He has one child) I'm going to have my 17 & 14 y/o tested, so they can know if

they carry the gene or not.. That's very important, as far as I'm concerned.. I

would just like to add that, many of us have children, and I'll speak for myself

here I do my best to be a good parent.. You could be the healthiest person on the

face of the earth, and still SUCK as a parent... I love my children, and I think I try

as hard as I can to stay as healthy for myself, my husband, but most of all for my

sons (and now my little grandson) Amy I respect you for your knowledge (we all

know you have it going on) but when you make a comment like "I have decided

to be selfless, think outside myself and not just about what I want" to me that is a

putdown to others that have made a different choice... There are many ppl in this

world that shouldn't be parents and yes everything should be taken into

consideration.. But if a couple feels they can handle it, after weighing everything

carefully, then I don't think it makes them selfish... just my thoughts <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Joni 55 y/o f w c/f
 
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