i for one am going to make a better effort to post in the "adults with cf" section. it seems silly that most of us aren't posting there, afterall, aren't most people on this forum adults with CF? it could be our own little place to commiserate... <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
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A Simple Request
- Thread starter lightNlife
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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Scarlett81</b></i>
Amy I hate to say this but I just can't help it-you aren't the one to mention posts being cruel. Sorry, I had to. I'm sure lots of others thought the same thing.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>
doesn't change the fact that loulou's post was cruel.
Amy I hate to say this but I just can't help it-you aren't the one to mention posts being cruel. Sorry, I had to. I'm sure lots of others thought the same thing.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>
doesn't change the fact that loulou's post was cruel.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Scarlett81</b></i>
Amy I hate to say this but I just can't help it-you aren't the one to mention posts being cruel. Sorry, I had to. I'm sure lots of others thought the same thing.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>
doesn't change the fact that loulou's post was cruel.
Amy I hate to say this but I just can't help it-you aren't the one to mention posts being cruel. Sorry, I had to. I'm sure lots of others thought the same thing.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>
doesn't change the fact that loulou's post was cruel.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Scarlett81</b></i>
Amy I hate to say this but I just can't help it-you aren't the one to mention posts being cruel. Sorry, I had to. I'm sure lots of others thought the same thing.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>
doesn't change the fact that loulou's post was cruel.
Amy I hate to say this but I just can't help it-you aren't the one to mention posts being cruel. Sorry, I had to. I'm sure lots of others thought the same thing.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>
doesn't change the fact that loulou's post was cruel.
I dont know why i forgot to add this last night when i originally responded to this post, but, when i do post anything and i dont care what it is.... i will post it here, because this is where everyone looks . Boy this is going to sound bad but i didnt even know we had more than one subcategory, only because i have THIS particular page saved in my "favorites", so only this page shows up. I dont go thru the whole site to find it, but if i did then i REALLY wouldnt want to have to go a search for this Category for this, and that category for that. Thats too much searching and i dont have all day to sit here and look all over for one topic. I say as long as the post states what it is about...... whether it be , cf related, pregnancy, lung issues, marriage, gi problems, off topic..WHATEVER.... you have a heads up and can decide if you want to open it or not. Whats the big deal ?
~ And yes Christian, that is SSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO the Pot calling the kettle black * shaking head in disbelief *
~ And yes Christian, that is SSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO the Pot calling the kettle black * shaking head in disbelief *
I dont know why i forgot to add this last night when i originally responded to this post, but, when i do post anything and i dont care what it is.... i will post it here, because this is where everyone looks . Boy this is going to sound bad but i didnt even know we had more than one subcategory, only because i have THIS particular page saved in my "favorites", so only this page shows up. I dont go thru the whole site to find it, but if i did then i REALLY wouldnt want to have to go a search for this Category for this, and that category for that. Thats too much searching and i dont have all day to sit here and look all over for one topic. I say as long as the post states what it is about...... whether it be , cf related, pregnancy, lung issues, marriage, gi problems, off topic..WHATEVER.... you have a heads up and can decide if you want to open it or not. Whats the big deal ?
~ And yes Christian, that is SSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO the Pot calling the kettle black * shaking head in disbelief *
~ And yes Christian, that is SSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO the Pot calling the kettle black * shaking head in disbelief *
I dont know why i forgot to add this last night when i originally responded to this post, but, when i do post anything and i dont care what it is.... i will post it here, because this is where everyone looks . Boy this is going to sound bad but i didnt even know we had more than one subcategory, only because i have THIS particular page saved in my "favorites", so only this page shows up. I dont go thru the whole site to find it, but if i did then i REALLY wouldnt want to have to go a search for this Category for this, and that category for that. Thats too much searching and i dont have all day to sit here and look all over for one topic. I say as long as the post states what it is about...... whether it be , cf related, pregnancy, lung issues, marriage, gi problems, off topic..WHATEVER.... you have a heads up and can decide if you want to open it or not. Whats the big deal ?
~ And yes Christian, that is SSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO the Pot calling the kettle black * shaking head in disbelief *
~ And yes Christian, that is SSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO the Pot calling the kettle black * shaking head in disbelief *
coltsfan715
New member
I am sorry I have to say this as it just irks me to hell and back.
People think that just because someone has had some bad experiences or maybe is choosing to refrain from having children that they have issues with ALL pregnancies or ALL of some other topic - whatever their experience may have related too.
Why is it that a person can not use something as an example because it is something that is prevalent on the forums right now. If you look at the first page of the forums the past week there have several pregnancy posts along with several marriage posts - I am not trying to start an anti marriage thread so please don't go their I am simply pointing out something that has been on the forum alot in the past week.
ALOT of times people tend to use examples that a group can relate to the here and now - she said FOR INSTANCE in her post .... often used to indicate THIS IS AN EXAMPLE. NOT I hate pregnancy and anything having to do with it because of a bad experience I may have had. That is like saying that everyone on these boards that has bad lung function hates people with good lung function - that is just crazy.
Also add to the fact that it is just wrong to take shot at something that someone experienced that was very personal, horrifying and traumatic. Especially when that was shared in confidence - NOT with the expectation of having it thrown in her face at the first available opportunity - and it didn't pertain to what the person wrote. One she said why she didn't post this in another forum 2 she was using it as AN EXAMPLE.
I am sorry I normally try not to get involved in other peoples beefs on here but this has just irritated me to death. I find it so highly entertaining that everyone is supposed to be happy to see all of the posts on here and be supportive because AFTER ALL this is a support community. Also to play devils advocate IF she did have a problem with pregnancy then WHY aren't we being SUPPORTIVE of her. We have to be supportive of people in good situations because that is what this site is about - then why aren't we being supportive of someone that MIGHT have an issue with some situations for whatever reason (i.e. pregnancy, transplant or anything for that matter). Just because it may not be the popular idea or thought to have doesn't mean that we should not be supportive of that person. It IS NOT necessary to call someone out and possibly make them feel worse about the situation than need be. Also THINK about how what you say would affect you if you were on the receiving end of the comment or thought. If it is something that would hurt your feelings or something that you would think of as inappropriate for someone to say to YOU then maybe you should NOT say it to someone else.
Also wanted to add I am not saying L~ has an issues with pregnancy as I think AGAIN she was just using that as an example, but I wanted to throw that thought out there.
And please drop the "she has issues with pregnancy" attitude everyone. It is pointless and really rather hurtful it serves no purpose - even if she did have an issue with it do you see her posting on everyones pregnancy threads some negative comments about how they have issues or have problems they need to deal with or anything else of a negative tone. NO you don't. Extend the same courtesy to her and when you reply to her post make it pertinent to the originally posted material -- which in this case was categories and subcategories and us actually using them.
Lindsey
People think that just because someone has had some bad experiences or maybe is choosing to refrain from having children that they have issues with ALL pregnancies or ALL of some other topic - whatever their experience may have related too.
Why is it that a person can not use something as an example because it is something that is prevalent on the forums right now. If you look at the first page of the forums the past week there have several pregnancy posts along with several marriage posts - I am not trying to start an anti marriage thread so please don't go their I am simply pointing out something that has been on the forum alot in the past week.
ALOT of times people tend to use examples that a group can relate to the here and now - she said FOR INSTANCE in her post .... often used to indicate THIS IS AN EXAMPLE. NOT I hate pregnancy and anything having to do with it because of a bad experience I may have had. That is like saying that everyone on these boards that has bad lung function hates people with good lung function - that is just crazy.
Also add to the fact that it is just wrong to take shot at something that someone experienced that was very personal, horrifying and traumatic. Especially when that was shared in confidence - NOT with the expectation of having it thrown in her face at the first available opportunity - and it didn't pertain to what the person wrote. One she said why she didn't post this in another forum 2 she was using it as AN EXAMPLE.
I am sorry I normally try not to get involved in other peoples beefs on here but this has just irritated me to death. I find it so highly entertaining that everyone is supposed to be happy to see all of the posts on here and be supportive because AFTER ALL this is a support community. Also to play devils advocate IF she did have a problem with pregnancy then WHY aren't we being SUPPORTIVE of her. We have to be supportive of people in good situations because that is what this site is about - then why aren't we being supportive of someone that MIGHT have an issue with some situations for whatever reason (i.e. pregnancy, transplant or anything for that matter). Just because it may not be the popular idea or thought to have doesn't mean that we should not be supportive of that person. It IS NOT necessary to call someone out and possibly make them feel worse about the situation than need be. Also THINK about how what you say would affect you if you were on the receiving end of the comment or thought. If it is something that would hurt your feelings or something that you would think of as inappropriate for someone to say to YOU then maybe you should NOT say it to someone else.
Also wanted to add I am not saying L~ has an issues with pregnancy as I think AGAIN she was just using that as an example, but I wanted to throw that thought out there.
And please drop the "she has issues with pregnancy" attitude everyone. It is pointless and really rather hurtful it serves no purpose - even if she did have an issue with it do you see her posting on everyones pregnancy threads some negative comments about how they have issues or have problems they need to deal with or anything else of a negative tone. NO you don't. Extend the same courtesy to her and when you reply to her post make it pertinent to the originally posted material -- which in this case was categories and subcategories and us actually using them.
Lindsey
coltsfan715
New member
I am sorry I have to say this as it just irks me to hell and back.
People think that just because someone has had some bad experiences or maybe is choosing to refrain from having children that they have issues with ALL pregnancies or ALL of some other topic - whatever their experience may have related too.
Why is it that a person can not use something as an example because it is something that is prevalent on the forums right now. If you look at the first page of the forums the past week there have several pregnancy posts along with several marriage posts - I am not trying to start an anti marriage thread so please don't go their I am simply pointing out something that has been on the forum alot in the past week.
ALOT of times people tend to use examples that a group can relate to the here and now - she said FOR INSTANCE in her post .... often used to indicate THIS IS AN EXAMPLE. NOT I hate pregnancy and anything having to do with it because of a bad experience I may have had. That is like saying that everyone on these boards that has bad lung function hates people with good lung function - that is just crazy.
Also add to the fact that it is just wrong to take shot at something that someone experienced that was very personal, horrifying and traumatic. Especially when that was shared in confidence - NOT with the expectation of having it thrown in her face at the first available opportunity - and it didn't pertain to what the person wrote. One she said why she didn't post this in another forum 2 she was using it as AN EXAMPLE.
I am sorry I normally try not to get involved in other peoples beefs on here but this has just irritated me to death. I find it so highly entertaining that everyone is supposed to be happy to see all of the posts on here and be supportive because AFTER ALL this is a support community. Also to play devils advocate IF she did have a problem with pregnancy then WHY aren't we being SUPPORTIVE of her. We have to be supportive of people in good situations because that is what this site is about - then why aren't we being supportive of someone that MIGHT have an issue with some situations for whatever reason (i.e. pregnancy, transplant or anything for that matter). Just because it may not be the popular idea or thought to have doesn't mean that we should not be supportive of that person. It IS NOT necessary to call someone out and possibly make them feel worse about the situation than need be. Also THINK about how what you say would affect you if you were on the receiving end of the comment or thought. If it is something that would hurt your feelings or something that you would think of as inappropriate for someone to say to YOU then maybe you should NOT say it to someone else.
Also wanted to add I am not saying L~ has an issues with pregnancy as I think AGAIN she was just using that as an example, but I wanted to throw that thought out there.
And please drop the "she has issues with pregnancy" attitude everyone. It is pointless and really rather hurtful it serves no purpose - even if she did have an issue with it do you see her posting on everyones pregnancy threads some negative comments about how they have issues or have problems they need to deal with or anything else of a negative tone. NO you don't. Extend the same courtesy to her and when you reply to her post make it pertinent to the originally posted material -- which in this case was categories and subcategories and us actually using them.
Lindsey
People think that just because someone has had some bad experiences or maybe is choosing to refrain from having children that they have issues with ALL pregnancies or ALL of some other topic - whatever their experience may have related too.
Why is it that a person can not use something as an example because it is something that is prevalent on the forums right now. If you look at the first page of the forums the past week there have several pregnancy posts along with several marriage posts - I am not trying to start an anti marriage thread so please don't go their I am simply pointing out something that has been on the forum alot in the past week.
ALOT of times people tend to use examples that a group can relate to the here and now - she said FOR INSTANCE in her post .... often used to indicate THIS IS AN EXAMPLE. NOT I hate pregnancy and anything having to do with it because of a bad experience I may have had. That is like saying that everyone on these boards that has bad lung function hates people with good lung function - that is just crazy.
Also add to the fact that it is just wrong to take shot at something that someone experienced that was very personal, horrifying and traumatic. Especially when that was shared in confidence - NOT with the expectation of having it thrown in her face at the first available opportunity - and it didn't pertain to what the person wrote. One she said why she didn't post this in another forum 2 she was using it as AN EXAMPLE.
I am sorry I normally try not to get involved in other peoples beefs on here but this has just irritated me to death. I find it so highly entertaining that everyone is supposed to be happy to see all of the posts on here and be supportive because AFTER ALL this is a support community. Also to play devils advocate IF she did have a problem with pregnancy then WHY aren't we being SUPPORTIVE of her. We have to be supportive of people in good situations because that is what this site is about - then why aren't we being supportive of someone that MIGHT have an issue with some situations for whatever reason (i.e. pregnancy, transplant or anything for that matter). Just because it may not be the popular idea or thought to have doesn't mean that we should not be supportive of that person. It IS NOT necessary to call someone out and possibly make them feel worse about the situation than need be. Also THINK about how what you say would affect you if you were on the receiving end of the comment or thought. If it is something that would hurt your feelings or something that you would think of as inappropriate for someone to say to YOU then maybe you should NOT say it to someone else.
Also wanted to add I am not saying L~ has an issues with pregnancy as I think AGAIN she was just using that as an example, but I wanted to throw that thought out there.
And please drop the "she has issues with pregnancy" attitude everyone. It is pointless and really rather hurtful it serves no purpose - even if she did have an issue with it do you see her posting on everyones pregnancy threads some negative comments about how they have issues or have problems they need to deal with or anything else of a negative tone. NO you don't. Extend the same courtesy to her and when you reply to her post make it pertinent to the originally posted material -- which in this case was categories and subcategories and us actually using them.
Lindsey
coltsfan715
New member
I am sorry I have to say this as it just irks me to hell and back.
People think that just because someone has had some bad experiences or maybe is choosing to refrain from having children that they have issues with ALL pregnancies or ALL of some other topic - whatever their experience may have related too.
Why is it that a person can not use something as an example because it is something that is prevalent on the forums right now. If you look at the first page of the forums the past week there have several pregnancy posts along with several marriage posts - I am not trying to start an anti marriage thread so please don't go their I am simply pointing out something that has been on the forum alot in the past week.
ALOT of times people tend to use examples that a group can relate to the here and now - she said FOR INSTANCE in her post .... often used to indicate THIS IS AN EXAMPLE. NOT I hate pregnancy and anything having to do with it because of a bad experience I may have had. That is like saying that everyone on these boards that has bad lung function hates people with good lung function - that is just crazy.
Also add to the fact that it is just wrong to take shot at something that someone experienced that was very personal, horrifying and traumatic. Especially when that was shared in confidence - NOT with the expectation of having it thrown in her face at the first available opportunity - and it didn't pertain to what the person wrote. One she said why she didn't post this in another forum 2 she was using it as AN EXAMPLE.
I am sorry I normally try not to get involved in other peoples beefs on here but this has just irritated me to death. I find it so highly entertaining that everyone is supposed to be happy to see all of the posts on here and be supportive because AFTER ALL this is a support community. Also to play devils advocate IF she did have a problem with pregnancy then WHY aren't we being SUPPORTIVE of her. We have to be supportive of people in good situations because that is what this site is about - then why aren't we being supportive of someone that MIGHT have an issue with some situations for whatever reason (i.e. pregnancy, transplant or anything for that matter). Just because it may not be the popular idea or thought to have doesn't mean that we should not be supportive of that person. It IS NOT necessary to call someone out and possibly make them feel worse about the situation than need be. Also THINK about how what you say would affect you if you were on the receiving end of the comment or thought. If it is something that would hurt your feelings or something that you would think of as inappropriate for someone to say to YOU then maybe you should NOT say it to someone else.
Also wanted to add I am not saying L~ has an issues with pregnancy as I think AGAIN she was just using that as an example, but I wanted to throw that thought out there.
And please drop the "she has issues with pregnancy" attitude everyone. It is pointless and really rather hurtful it serves no purpose - even if she did have an issue with it do you see her posting on everyones pregnancy threads some negative comments about how they have issues or have problems they need to deal with or anything else of a negative tone. NO you don't. Extend the same courtesy to her and when you reply to her post make it pertinent to the originally posted material -- which in this case was categories and subcategories and us actually using them.
Lindsey
People think that just because someone has had some bad experiences or maybe is choosing to refrain from having children that they have issues with ALL pregnancies or ALL of some other topic - whatever their experience may have related too.
Why is it that a person can not use something as an example because it is something that is prevalent on the forums right now. If you look at the first page of the forums the past week there have several pregnancy posts along with several marriage posts - I am not trying to start an anti marriage thread so please don't go their I am simply pointing out something that has been on the forum alot in the past week.
ALOT of times people tend to use examples that a group can relate to the here and now - she said FOR INSTANCE in her post .... often used to indicate THIS IS AN EXAMPLE. NOT I hate pregnancy and anything having to do with it because of a bad experience I may have had. That is like saying that everyone on these boards that has bad lung function hates people with good lung function - that is just crazy.
Also add to the fact that it is just wrong to take shot at something that someone experienced that was very personal, horrifying and traumatic. Especially when that was shared in confidence - NOT with the expectation of having it thrown in her face at the first available opportunity - and it didn't pertain to what the person wrote. One she said why she didn't post this in another forum 2 she was using it as AN EXAMPLE.
I am sorry I normally try not to get involved in other peoples beefs on here but this has just irritated me to death. I find it so highly entertaining that everyone is supposed to be happy to see all of the posts on here and be supportive because AFTER ALL this is a support community. Also to play devils advocate IF she did have a problem with pregnancy then WHY aren't we being SUPPORTIVE of her. We have to be supportive of people in good situations because that is what this site is about - then why aren't we being supportive of someone that MIGHT have an issue with some situations for whatever reason (i.e. pregnancy, transplant or anything for that matter). Just because it may not be the popular idea or thought to have doesn't mean that we should not be supportive of that person. It IS NOT necessary to call someone out and possibly make them feel worse about the situation than need be. Also THINK about how what you say would affect you if you were on the receiving end of the comment or thought. If it is something that would hurt your feelings or something that you would think of as inappropriate for someone to say to YOU then maybe you should NOT say it to someone else.
Also wanted to add I am not saying L~ has an issues with pregnancy as I think AGAIN she was just using that as an example, but I wanted to throw that thought out there.
And please drop the "she has issues with pregnancy" attitude everyone. It is pointless and really rather hurtful it serves no purpose - even if she did have an issue with it do you see her posting on everyones pregnancy threads some negative comments about how they have issues or have problems they need to deal with or anything else of a negative tone. NO you don't. Extend the same courtesy to her and when you reply to her post make it pertinent to the originally posted material -- which in this case was categories and subcategories and us actually using them.
Lindsey
princessjdc
New member
HOLY COW!!! DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA
I only view and post in the adult section b/c everyone goes there. The subcategories, I have looked at maybe twice and that was it, once in a while I look at the blogs if the title catches my eye and once in a blue moon Ill check the off topic category. My 2 cents worth, do what you will with it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
I only view and post in the adult section b/c everyone goes there. The subcategories, I have looked at maybe twice and that was it, once in a while I look at the blogs if the title catches my eye and once in a blue moon Ill check the off topic category. My 2 cents worth, do what you will with it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
princessjdc
New member
HOLY COW!!! DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA
I only view and post in the adult section b/c everyone goes there. The subcategories, I have looked at maybe twice and that was it, once in a while I look at the blogs if the title catches my eye and once in a blue moon Ill check the off topic category. My 2 cents worth, do what you will with it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
I only view and post in the adult section b/c everyone goes there. The subcategories, I have looked at maybe twice and that was it, once in a while I look at the blogs if the title catches my eye and once in a blue moon Ill check the off topic category. My 2 cents worth, do what you will with it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
princessjdc
New member
HOLY COW!!! DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA
I only view and post in the adult section b/c everyone goes there. The subcategories, I have looked at maybe twice and that was it, once in a while I look at the blogs if the title catches my eye and once in a blue moon Ill check the off topic category. My 2 cents worth, do what you will with it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
I only view and post in the adult section b/c everyone goes there. The subcategories, I have looked at maybe twice and that was it, once in a while I look at the blogs if the title catches my eye and once in a blue moon Ill check the off topic category. My 2 cents worth, do what you will with it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
Where in her post did Nightlife say, "I have been raped and miscarried so therefore I have a problem with the pregnancy talk". I didn't see it. And it think it is horrible to bring up. God, I would expect someone with CF to have more compassion than that. No, I would expect a person in general to have more compassion than that. She told people that because she trusted them, not to let it be thrown in her face FOR NO REASON AT ALL!
Now, I don't think it matters at all where people post things. Yes, they should be in the appropriate sections because that is what they are for. But I don't think that everyone checks them and I think that if people want answers soon they post on Adult. I have posted things in wrong areas also. Just read what you want to read.
This thread has totally gone off and I for one think it should be stopped.
Now, I don't think it matters at all where people post things. Yes, they should be in the appropriate sections because that is what they are for. But I don't think that everyone checks them and I think that if people want answers soon they post on Adult. I have posted things in wrong areas also. Just read what you want to read.
This thread has totally gone off and I for one think it should be stopped.