addiction effecting my CF?

hbollotte

New member
hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

hbollotte

New member
hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

hbollotte

New member
hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

hbollotte

New member
hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

hbollotte

New member
hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
OK I just want to say that my dad was hooked on Oxycontin at least 3 seperate times and he had to go to methodone clinics a couple different times and the whole point is to ween you off. I have never heard of a methodone clinic that does not ween you off. That is the first thing that stood out to me. Having dealt with both of my parents being drug addicts.

Secondly the ***** I had to deal with, with them and their addictions please spare a kid this. My dad tried and tried to get sober and now at 49 with hep C from sharing dirty needles and been in jail several times and rehab still can't quit. I have been to an abundance of AA and NA meetings with my mom and the one thing I learned more than anything was that an addict is always an addict and you can't get past it and start living a healthy lifestyle lying and not being 100% honest i.e. not telling your doc about the methodone.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
OK I just want to say that my dad was hooked on Oxycontin at least 3 seperate times and he had to go to methodone clinics a couple different times and the whole point is to ween you off. I have never heard of a methodone clinic that does not ween you off. That is the first thing that stood out to me. Having dealt with both of my parents being drug addicts.

Secondly the ***** I had to deal with, with them and their addictions please spare a kid this. My dad tried and tried to get sober and now at 49 with hep C from sharing dirty needles and been in jail several times and rehab still can't quit. I have been to an abundance of AA and NA meetings with my mom and the one thing I learned more than anything was that an addict is always an addict and you can't get past it and start living a healthy lifestyle lying and not being 100% honest i.e. not telling your doc about the methodone.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
OK I just want to say that my dad was hooked on Oxycontin at least 3 seperate times and he had to go to methodone clinics a couple different times and the whole point is to ween you off. I have never heard of a methodone clinic that does not ween you off. That is the first thing that stood out to me. Having dealt with both of my parents being drug addicts.

Secondly the ***** I had to deal with, with them and their addictions please spare a kid this. My dad tried and tried to get sober and now at 49 with hep C from sharing dirty needles and been in jail several times and rehab still can't quit. I have been to an abundance of AA and NA meetings with my mom and the one thing I learned more than anything was that an addict is always an addict and you can't get past it and start living a healthy lifestyle lying and not being 100% honest i.e. not telling your doc about the methodone.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
OK I just want to say that my dad was hooked on Oxycontin at least 3 seperate times and he had to go to methodone clinics a couple different times and the whole point is to ween you off. I have never heard of a methodone clinic that does not ween you off. That is the first thing that stood out to me. Having dealt with both of my parents being drug addicts.

Secondly the ***** I had to deal with, with them and their addictions please spare a kid this. My dad tried and tried to get sober and now at 49 with hep C from sharing dirty needles and been in jail several times and rehab still can't quit. I have been to an abundance of AA and NA meetings with my mom and the one thing I learned more than anything was that an addict is always an addict and you can't get past it and start living a healthy lifestyle lying and not being 100% honest i.e. not telling your doc about the methodone.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
OK I just want to say that my dad was hooked on Oxycontin at least 3 seperate times and he had to go to methodone clinics a couple different times and the whole point is to ween you off. I have never heard of a methodone clinic that does not ween you off. That is the first thing that stood out to me. Having dealt with both of my parents being drug addicts.

Secondly the ***** I had to deal with, with them and their addictions please spare a kid this. My dad tried and tried to get sober and now at 49 with hep C from sharing dirty needles and been in jail several times and rehab still can't quit. I have been to an abundance of AA and NA meetings with my mom and the one thing I learned more than anything was that an addict is always an addict and you can't get past it and start living a healthy lifestyle lying and not being 100% honest i.e. not telling your doc about the methodone.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
Kate - I did a copy and paste on this comment you posted in the pregnancy forum.

<b>A month before my 18th birthday i had an abortion at 9 weeks pregnant. the man i was dating at the time had a drinking problem and i wanted to keep the baby but he convinced me that it would be the wrong time,</b>

These are statements you wrote in this forum.

<b>i've been with the same person for five years</b>

and

<b>my name is kate 21F wcf</b>


Surely you must see how these statements contradict one another. If you have been with the same person for 5 years, how is it that you were dating someone else with a drinking problem just before turning 18? From 18 to 21 is only 3 years. I urge you to think very seriously about what direction you are heading.

You came here asking for advice. Everyone here has tried to give you their honest and supportive opinions. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you didn't come in and say "tell me it's gonna be a bed of roses." That's not what real support is about anyway. Sometimes we all need to hear the cold hard facts.

Also, the comment made by Faust was <b>and I don't mean due to concerns regarding STD's </b>. He absolutely did not say that you have STD's, so calm down and read carefully before you become offended at something that wasn't even said.

I really wish you the best in your recovery from this addiction. As I said in my earlier post, I am so glad you are fighting it. That being said, you are not doing yourself any favors by trying to have a child when your body is not up to it physically or mentally. I think you need to be honest with YOURSELF, if no one else, and realize this just isn't the time for you to be pregnant.

This site has many caring people who took the time to give you links to articles to help you with the questions that you posted. I haven't read any responses that were derogatory to you in any way. All anyone here has tried to do is support you, but at the same time, get you to see the importance of your health during pregnancy. If you truely want a child, I would think you would be willing to wait until the time is right. I'm afraid you will just be angry with me for what I'm posting now, but I call it like I see it. I don't think it helps anyone to just tell them what they want to hear.

I sincerely wish you the best.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
Kate - I did a copy and paste on this comment you posted in the pregnancy forum.

<b>A month before my 18th birthday i had an abortion at 9 weeks pregnant. the man i was dating at the time had a drinking problem and i wanted to keep the baby but he convinced me that it would be the wrong time,</b>

These are statements you wrote in this forum.

<b>i've been with the same person for five years</b>

and

<b>my name is kate 21F wcf</b>


Surely you must see how these statements contradict one another. If you have been with the same person for 5 years, how is it that you were dating someone else with a drinking problem just before turning 18? From 18 to 21 is only 3 years. I urge you to think very seriously about what direction you are heading.

You came here asking for advice. Everyone here has tried to give you their honest and supportive opinions. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you didn't come in and say "tell me it's gonna be a bed of roses." That's not what real support is about anyway. Sometimes we all need to hear the cold hard facts.

Also, the comment made by Faust was <b>and I don't mean due to concerns regarding STD's </b>. He absolutely did not say that you have STD's, so calm down and read carefully before you become offended at something that wasn't even said.

I really wish you the best in your recovery from this addiction. As I said in my earlier post, I am so glad you are fighting it. That being said, you are not doing yourself any favors by trying to have a child when your body is not up to it physically or mentally. I think you need to be honest with YOURSELF, if no one else, and realize this just isn't the time for you to be pregnant.

This site has many caring people who took the time to give you links to articles to help you with the questions that you posted. I haven't read any responses that were derogatory to you in any way. All anyone here has tried to do is support you, but at the same time, get you to see the importance of your health during pregnancy. If you truely want a child, I would think you would be willing to wait until the time is right. I'm afraid you will just be angry with me for what I'm posting now, but I call it like I see it. I don't think it helps anyone to just tell them what they want to hear.

I sincerely wish you the best.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
Kate - I did a copy and paste on this comment you posted in the pregnancy forum.

<b>A month before my 18th birthday i had an abortion at 9 weeks pregnant. the man i was dating at the time had a drinking problem and i wanted to keep the baby but he convinced me that it would be the wrong time,</b>

These are statements you wrote in this forum.

<b>i've been with the same person for five years</b>

and

<b>my name is kate 21F wcf</b>


Surely you must see how these statements contradict one another. If you have been with the same person for 5 years, how is it that you were dating someone else with a drinking problem just before turning 18? From 18 to 21 is only 3 years. I urge you to think very seriously about what direction you are heading.

You came here asking for advice. Everyone here has tried to give you their honest and supportive opinions. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you didn't come in and say "tell me it's gonna be a bed of roses." That's not what real support is about anyway. Sometimes we all need to hear the cold hard facts.

Also, the comment made by Faust was <b>and I don't mean due to concerns regarding STD's </b>. He absolutely did not say that you have STD's, so calm down and read carefully before you become offended at something that wasn't even said.

I really wish you the best in your recovery from this addiction. As I said in my earlier post, I am so glad you are fighting it. That being said, you are not doing yourself any favors by trying to have a child when your body is not up to it physically or mentally. I think you need to be honest with YOURSELF, if no one else, and realize this just isn't the time for you to be pregnant.

This site has many caring people who took the time to give you links to articles to help you with the questions that you posted. I haven't read any responses that were derogatory to you in any way. All anyone here has tried to do is support you, but at the same time, get you to see the importance of your health during pregnancy. If you truely want a child, I would think you would be willing to wait until the time is right. I'm afraid you will just be angry with me for what I'm posting now, but I call it like I see it. I don't think it helps anyone to just tell them what they want to hear.

I sincerely wish you the best.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
Kate - I did a copy and paste on this comment you posted in the pregnancy forum.

<b>A month before my 18th birthday i had an abortion at 9 weeks pregnant. the man i was dating at the time had a drinking problem and i wanted to keep the baby but he convinced me that it would be the wrong time,</b>

These are statements you wrote in this forum.

<b>i've been with the same person for five years</b>

and

<b>my name is kate 21F wcf</b>


Surely you must see how these statements contradict one another. If you have been with the same person for 5 years, how is it that you were dating someone else with a drinking problem just before turning 18? From 18 to 21 is only 3 years. I urge you to think very seriously about what direction you are heading.

You came here asking for advice. Everyone here has tried to give you their honest and supportive opinions. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you didn't come in and say "tell me it's gonna be a bed of roses." That's not what real support is about anyway. Sometimes we all need to hear the cold hard facts.

Also, the comment made by Faust was <b>and I don't mean due to concerns regarding STD's </b>. He absolutely did not say that you have STD's, so calm down and read carefully before you become offended at something that wasn't even said.

I really wish you the best in your recovery from this addiction. As I said in my earlier post, I am so glad you are fighting it. That being said, you are not doing yourself any favors by trying to have a child when your body is not up to it physically or mentally. I think you need to be honest with YOURSELF, if no one else, and realize this just isn't the time for you to be pregnant.

This site has many caring people who took the time to give you links to articles to help you with the questions that you posted. I haven't read any responses that were derogatory to you in any way. All anyone here has tried to do is support you, but at the same time, get you to see the importance of your health during pregnancy. If you truely want a child, I would think you would be willing to wait until the time is right. I'm afraid you will just be angry with me for what I'm posting now, but I call it like I see it. I don't think it helps anyone to just tell them what they want to hear.

I sincerely wish you the best.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
Kate - I did a copy and paste on this comment you posted in the pregnancy forum.

<b>A month before my 18th birthday i had an abortion at 9 weeks pregnant. the man i was dating at the time had a drinking problem and i wanted to keep the baby but he convinced me that it would be the wrong time,</b>

These are statements you wrote in this forum.

<b>i've been with the same person for five years</b>

and

<b>my name is kate 21F wcf</b>


Surely you must see how these statements contradict one another. If you have been with the same person for 5 years, how is it that you were dating someone else with a drinking problem just before turning 18? From 18 to 21 is only 3 years. I urge you to think very seriously about what direction you are heading.

You came here asking for advice. Everyone here has tried to give you their honest and supportive opinions. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you didn't come in and say "tell me it's gonna be a bed of roses." That's not what real support is about anyway. Sometimes we all need to hear the cold hard facts.

Also, the comment made by Faust was <b>and I don't mean due to concerns regarding STD's </b>. He absolutely did not say that you have STD's, so calm down and read carefully before you become offended at something that wasn't even said.

I really wish you the best in your recovery from this addiction. As I said in my earlier post, I am so glad you are fighting it. That being said, you are not doing yourself any favors by trying to have a child when your body is not up to it physically or mentally. I think you need to be honest with YOURSELF, if no one else, and realize this just isn't the time for you to be pregnant.

This site has many caring people who took the time to give you links to articles to help you with the questions that you posted. I haven't read any responses that were derogatory to you in any way. All anyone here has tried to do is support you, but at the same time, get you to see the importance of your health during pregnancy. If you truely want a child, I would think you would be willing to wait until the time is right. I'm afraid you will just be angry with me for what I'm posting now, but I call it like I see it. I don't think it helps anyone to just tell them what they want to hear.

I sincerely wish you the best.

Stacey
 

jdprecious

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>hbollotte</b></i>

hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>

Honestly, I went through the same thing. Right after our engagement I turned up expecting. We were happy about it and life has been a blast since the first day I met him. However, I don't know if I "really" want to get married either. We are at such a happy place in our relationship, I am just happy being happy. If you have ever watched or read about the Gene Simmons Family Jewels show, he has been with the same woman for 22 years. His defense is I am happily unmarried not divorced. My mind wonders over to that side sometimes. I know one day we will I am just in no particular rush at this point. Just playing devils advocate for the OP on the subject of being married or not since I can relate.

However, I do agree with everyone that a child at this time would not be the right thing to do. I hope you can come clean with your docs and get everything worked out in your favor. The more they know, the more they can help you help yourself. Good luck!

Much Love
Jess
 

jdprecious

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>hbollotte</b></i>

hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>

Honestly, I went through the same thing. Right after our engagement I turned up expecting. We were happy about it and life has been a blast since the first day I met him. However, I don't know if I "really" want to get married either. We are at such a happy place in our relationship, I am just happy being happy. If you have ever watched or read about the Gene Simmons Family Jewels show, he has been with the same woman for 22 years. His defense is I am happily unmarried not divorced. My mind wonders over to that side sometimes. I know one day we will I am just in no particular rush at this point. Just playing devils advocate for the OP on the subject of being married or not since I can relate.

However, I do agree with everyone that a child at this time would not be the right thing to do. I hope you can come clean with your docs and get everything worked out in your favor. The more they know, the more they can help you help yourself. Good luck!

Much Love
Jess
 

jdprecious

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>hbollotte</b></i>

hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"></end quote></div>

Honestly, I went through the same thing. Right after our engagement I turned up expecting. We were happy about it and life has been a blast since the first day I met him. However, I don't know if I "really" want to get married either. We are at such a happy place in our relationship, I am just happy being happy. If you have ever watched or read about the Gene Simmons Family Jewels show, he has been with the same woman for 22 years. His defense is I am happily unmarried not divorced. My mind wonders over to that side sometimes. I know one day we will I am just in no particular rush at this point. Just playing devils advocate for the OP on the subject of being married or not since I can relate.

However, I do agree with everyone that a child at this time would not be the right thing to do. I hope you can come clean with your docs and get everything worked out in your favor. The more they know, the more they can help you help yourself. Good luck!

Much Love
Jess
 

jdprecious

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>hbollotte</b></i>

hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"></end quote>

Honestly, I went through the same thing. Right after our engagement I turned up expecting. We were happy about it and life has been a blast since the first day I met him. However, I don't know if I "really" want to get married either. We are at such a happy place in our relationship, I am just happy being happy. If you have ever watched or read about the Gene Simmons Family Jewels show, he has been with the same woman for 22 years. His defense is I am happily unmarried not divorced. My mind wonders over to that side sometimes. I know one day we will I am just in no particular rush at this point. Just playing devils advocate for the OP on the subject of being married or not since I can relate.

However, I do agree with everyone that a child at this time would not be the right thing to do. I hope you can come clean with your docs and get everything worked out in your favor. The more they know, the more they can help you help yourself. Good luck!

Much Love
Jess
 

jdprecious

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>hbollotte</b></i>

hey about the marriage thing, just tell everyone you are being like the celebrities. you want to have babies before the wedding. thats what i said <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i was planning a wedding and oops, got pregnant. i love my fiance and we were engaged to be married before i got pregnant.

my sister was always the first to talk about someone if they got pregnant and weren't married, well i sure showed her.

good luck with everything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"></end quote>

Honestly, I went through the same thing. Right after our engagement I turned up expecting. We were happy about it and life has been a blast since the first day I met him. However, I don't know if I "really" want to get married either. We are at such a happy place in our relationship, I am just happy being happy. If you have ever watched or read about the Gene Simmons Family Jewels show, he has been with the same woman for 22 years. His defense is I am happily unmarried not divorced. My mind wonders over to that side sometimes. I know one day we will I am just in no particular rush at this point. Just playing devils advocate for the OP on the subject of being married or not since I can relate.

However, I do agree with everyone that a child at this time would not be the right thing to do. I hope you can come clean with your docs and get everything worked out in your favor. The more they know, the more they can help you help yourself. Good luck!

Much Love
Jess
 
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