Kate - I did a copy and paste on this comment you posted in the pregnancy forum.
<b>A month before my 18th birthday i had an abortion at 9 weeks pregnant. the man i was dating at the time had a drinking problem and i wanted to keep the baby but he convinced me that it would be the wrong time,</b>
These are statements you wrote in this forum.
<b>i've been with the same person for five years</b>
and
<b>my name is kate 21F wcf</b>
Surely you must see how these statements contradict one another. If you have been with the same person for 5 years, how is it that you were dating someone else with a drinking problem just before turning 18? From 18 to 21 is only 3 years. I urge you to think very seriously about what direction you are heading.
You came here asking for advice. Everyone here has tried to give you their honest and supportive opinions. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you didn't come in and say "tell me it's gonna be a bed of roses." That's not what real support is about anyway. Sometimes we all need to hear the cold hard facts.
Also, the comment made by Faust was <b>and I don't mean due to concerns regarding STD's </b>. He absolutely did not say that you have STD's, so calm down and read carefully before you become offended at something that wasn't even said.
I really wish you the best in your recovery from this addiction. As I said in my earlier post, I am so glad you are fighting it. That being said, you are not doing yourself any favors by trying to have a child when your body is not up to it physically or mentally. I think you need to be honest with YOURSELF, if no one else, and realize this just isn't the time for you to be pregnant.
This site has many caring people who took the time to give you links to articles to help you with the questions that you posted. I haven't read any responses that were derogatory to you in any way. All anyone here has tried to do is support you, but at the same time, get you to see the importance of your health during pregnancy. If you truely want a child, I would think you would be willing to wait until the time is right. I'm afraid you will just be angry with me for what I'm posting now, but I call it like I see it. I don't think it helps anyone to just tell them what they want to hear.
I sincerely wish you the best.
Stacey