Insensitive people!

[Axis]

Facts may well be facts, but have you never heard of a little thing called tact, sakasuka? I doubt that you point out to people who are overweight or unattractive that they are "fat and ugly", though doubless they themselves are aware of these "facts". And why not? Because it is incredibly unkind and insensitive to do so. Just as pointing out to someone who has a particular illness that people die of it. YES of course we are all well aware that CF is eventually fatal. But to mention it in an initial conversation with someone you've just met??? I vote that the comment was insensitive.

Axis

 

[Axis]

Facts may well be facts, but have you never heard of a little thing called tact, sakasuka? I doubt that you point out to people who are overweight or unattractive that they are "fat and ugly", though doubless they themselves are aware of these "facts". And why not? Because it is incredibly unkind and insensitive to do so. Just as pointing out to someone who has a particular illness that people die of it. YES of course we are all well aware that CF is eventually fatal. But to mention it in an initial conversation with someone you've just met??? I vote that the comment was insensitive.

Axis

 

[Diane]

I also think it leans towards being a bit insensitive. It may be the only thing he remembers about this guy having cf ( the fact that he died of it) But he could have just mentioned he once knew of someone with cf and left it at that ,and waited to see if you asked for further info. Thats what i would have done. I'd wait to see if you WANT to know the outcome of this person. Rather then offer it all up at once . Like someone else said....If someone told me they had cancer , the same cancer that killed someone else i knew, i would NOT make a point to tell them i knew someone with the same thing but he died from it. I would simply say that i once knew someone with it and if they ask what happened to him, i would then tell them the outcome. I am one of those people that always thinks things thru all in a split second and considers the other persons feelings , before i open my mouth. hmmmm Now when i'm mad that last sentence doesnt always apply.......lol

 

[Diane]

I also think it leans towards being a bit insensitive. It may be the only thing he remembers about this guy having cf ( the fact that he died of it) But he could have just mentioned he once knew of someone with cf and left it at that ,and waited to see if you asked for further info. Thats what i would have done. I'd wait to see if you WANT to know the outcome of this person. Rather then offer it all up at once . Like someone else said....If someone told me they had cancer , the same cancer that killed someone else i knew, i would NOT make a point to tell them i knew someone with the same thing but he died from it. I would simply say that i once knew someone with it and if they ask what happened to him, i would then tell them the outcome. I am one of those people that always thinks things thru all in a split second and considers the other persons feelings , before i open my mouth. hmmmm Now when i'm mad that last sentence doesnt always apply.......lol

 

[Diane]

I also think it leans towards being a bit insensitive. It may be the only thing he remembers about this guy having cf ( the fact that he died of it) But he could have just mentioned he once knew of someone with cf and left it at that ,and waited to see if you asked for further info. Thats what i would have done. I'd wait to see if you WANT to know the outcome of this person. Rather then offer it all up at once . Like someone else said....If someone told me they had cancer , the same cancer that killed someone else i knew, i would NOT make a point to tell them i knew someone with the same thing but he died from it. I would simply say that i once knew someone with it and if they ask what happened to him, i would then tell them the outcome. I am one of those people that always thinks things thru all in a split second and considers the other persons feelings , before i open my mouth. hmmmm Now when i'm mad that last sentence doesnt always apply.......lol

 

[sue35]

I gotta say I agree with Amy and Allie. I don't think he meant it meanly, he probably said it without thinking, which we all do from time to time. It would be a good chance to tell him how far Cf has come (the median age maybe) and that it still needs to come a long way for a cure. You would be raising awareness.

While I would probably never say that to someone, I do know that a lot of people do. I really think they are saying it to just connect somehow with you. You can turn it into a positive thing by raising awareness.

Yeah, and why did that come up during an interview?

 

[sue35]

I gotta say I agree with Amy and Allie. I don't think he meant it meanly, he probably said it without thinking, which we all do from time to time. It would be a good chance to tell him how far Cf has come (the median age maybe) and that it still needs to come a long way for a cure. You would be raising awareness.

While I would probably never say that to someone, I do know that a lot of people do. I really think they are saying it to just connect somehow with you. You can turn it into a positive thing by raising awareness.

Yeah, and why did that come up during an interview?

 

[sue35]

I gotta say I agree with Amy and Allie. I don't think he meant it meanly, he probably said it without thinking, which we all do from time to time. It would be a good chance to tell him how far Cf has come (the median age maybe) and that it still needs to come a long way for a cure. You would be raising awareness.

While I would probably never say that to someone, I do know that a lot of people do. I really think they are saying it to just connect somehow with you. You can turn it into a positive thing by raising awareness.

Yeah, and why did that come up during an interview?

 

[Ratatosk]

Some people just don't think before they speak. My boss is a prime example -- had my wisdom teeth out a year after I started working for him. Horror story about his experience. Tonsils out 6 years ago -- he had a dreadful experience, too.

I'd jokingly told my husband, if I ever get pregnant, he's going to have some horrible Monty Pythonish story... Course, I was thinking more in terms that his wife's baby came out sideways. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> 4 years ago I get pregnant and had to hear the horrible story about how his wife hemorraged, required several blood transfusions and almost died when she gave birth to their second child. My grandmother would say "He ain't got no fetchin up". Some people just don't get it. L

 

[Ratatosk]

Some people just don't think before they speak. My boss is a prime example -- had my wisdom teeth out a year after I started working for him. Horror story about his experience. Tonsils out 6 years ago -- he had a dreadful experience, too.

I'd jokingly told my husband, if I ever get pregnant, he's going to have some horrible Monty Pythonish story... Course, I was thinking more in terms that his wife's baby came out sideways. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> 4 years ago I get pregnant and had to hear the horrible story about how his wife hemorraged, required several blood transfusions and almost died when she gave birth to their second child. My grandmother would say "He ain't got no fetchin up". Some people just don't get it. L

 

[Ratatosk]

Some people just don't think before they speak. My boss is a prime example -- had my wisdom teeth out a year after I started working for him. Horror story about his experience. Tonsils out 6 years ago -- he had a dreadful experience, too.

I'd jokingly told my husband, if I ever get pregnant, he's going to have some horrible Monty Pythonish story... Course, I was thinking more in terms that his wife's baby came out sideways. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> 4 years ago I get pregnant and had to hear the horrible story about how his wife hemorraged, required several blood transfusions and almost died when she gave birth to their second child. My grandmother would say "He ain't got no fetchin up". Some people just don't get it. L

 

[Scarlett81]

I think there's circumstances where's its ok-like if someone's life has really been affected by cf, they had a close relative or friend and they want to let you know they are very familiar with it-I don't have a problem with it. But overall, yes I find people can be extremely stupid and they don't think.
If someone came up to me and said they were just dx'd with cancer I wouldn't say-oh wow......my mom died from it, and my uncle and my neighbor....wow I hope you're ok.
Its common sense-so I don't know why people feel the need to put it in my face.
I had a (well meaning) lady come up to me in the mall and say-Lady what the heck are you walking around with an IV in your arm? (kind of in a rude tone) And I said well i have cf, yadda yadda. And her face turns this white shade and she covers her mouth and says-Oh my God...Oh God bless you. Its like-I ain't dead.

 

[Scarlett81]

I think there's circumstances where's its ok-like if someone's life has really been affected by cf, they had a close relative or friend and they want to let you know they are very familiar with it-I don't have a problem with it. But overall, yes I find people can be extremely stupid and they don't think.
If someone came up to me and said they were just dx'd with cancer I wouldn't say-oh wow......my mom died from it, and my uncle and my neighbor....wow I hope you're ok.
Its common sense-so I don't know why people feel the need to put it in my face.
I had a (well meaning) lady come up to me in the mall and say-Lady what the heck are you walking around with an IV in your arm? (kind of in a rude tone) And I said well i have cf, yadda yadda. And her face turns this white shade and she covers her mouth and says-Oh my God...Oh God bless you. Its like-I ain't dead.

 

[Scarlett81]

I think there's circumstances where's its ok-like if someone's life has really been affected by cf, they had a close relative or friend and they want to let you know they are very familiar with it-I don't have a problem with it. But overall, yes I find people can be extremely stupid and they don't think.
If someone came up to me and said they were just dx'd with cancer I wouldn't say-oh wow......my mom died from it, and my uncle and my neighbor....wow I hope you're ok.
Its common sense-so I don't know why people feel the need to put it in my face.
I had a (well meaning) lady come up to me in the mall and say-Lady what the heck are you walking around with an IV in your arm? (kind of in a rude tone) And I said well i have cf, yadda yadda. And her face turns this white shade and she covers her mouth and says-Oh my God...Oh God bless you. Its like-I ain't dead.

 

[Allie]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>


I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.

Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.

 

[Allie]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>


I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.

Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.

 

[Allie]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>


I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.

Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.

 

[icefisherman]

i think if someone says that they knew someone who died, we should consider how they feel to. if we are offended by there loss, i don't think that that is very kind of us at all. I'm sure these people mean well. If they were being mean, or sarcastic that is a different story

 

[icefisherman]

i think if someone says that they knew someone who died, we should consider how they feel to. if we are offended by there loss, i don't think that that is very kind of us at all. I'm sure these people mean well. If they were being mean, or sarcastic that is a different story

 

[icefisherman]

i think if someone says that they knew someone who died, we should consider how they feel to. if we are offended by there loss, i don't think that that is very kind of us at all. I'm sure these people mean well. If they were being mean, or sarcastic that is a different story