Hi Jessi,
My husband understands your frustration. I am the one who can go without sex. This was not the case in the begining of our relationship.We have been together for 13 years. The past 3 years my Cf has really started to affect me. Even when I am healthy, I could careless about sex. My husband fells like he is unattractive and unwanted. I love him dearly and want to be able statisfy his needs. I have just broke down on the physical level with our relationship. He gets made that I don't greet him with a hug and a kiss after work. It really has nothing to do with him. For me, I think uncontiously trying to push him away so he doesn't have to go through this CF thing with me. The week before I was admitted to the hospital I opened up emotionally to my husband. For so long, I have be emotionally unavailable to him. It sounds like Your husband is doing the same. I think it may be his way of trying to protect either you or himself. I am the one that feels unattractive therfore I punish my husband. I don't have any other signs of depression so I don't think that is neccessary the cause of the no sex thing. Do you do anything for him to feel wanted, maybe something romantic or something he really likes sexually. Maybe he is bored with the sex so he doesn't feel the need for it. There are tons of beeks on the market that can help you improve your sex life. I would suggest picking up a few and trying a few new thing. Like you said sex is very important to a marriage. It really separates a marriage from a friendship. Sorry that this is so long but I though maybe something from my experience can help you see his side. Don't give up on the marriage. Do the counseling and see if you can get him to become emotionally available. It may take some time. Last but not least, have you asked him what he wants? Does he want to be married to? Does he love you? If he says yes to both of these questions, there is hope for the two of you. I wish you the best of luck with all of this.
