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mamaScarlett

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The statement about a 'god card' was very disrespectful. God is brought up here bc thats a legitimate way that some people get help coping. Perhaps its not something that you use to cope, but its something that many others use. A little bit of respect for others differing opinions wouldn't hurt.
As to the OP's thoughts and questions. Yes I've felt the same way at times. I don't always, but when I do go through those bouts it also gets really bad. Something I've been trying to do more recently if I'm angry or resentful bc of my Cf, instead of fighting it and feeling guilty for it, I just let myself feel it.
I also rely heavily on prayer, and my personal beliefs and faith in God to cope. And to be honest, NO knock to this site that has helped me very much in the past, but at times I need a break from it and from the Cf world for a bit. If I find myself feeling frustrated by certain comments, or down bc of seeing the passing away of ones everytime I log on,  I know I have to take a break. For me, Cf has to be a part of my life only, and not a daily discussion in my life. Its enough of my life as it is, bc I'm very compliant and devote hours each day to my physical care for Cf. Cf doesn't deserve any more attention than my body has to give it each day to live.
I use my support system, which is small but very strong. My husband understands and lets me vent, and my best girlfriend understands and is the other one person I can call in the middle of the night if I have to. You don't need an army of 20 people around you, just one or two rocks.
I stay busy, I stay distracted. I try to think of others instead of myself (which is not easy, but I try). I don't stay in denial-I keep working hard to fight my Cf every day. But I've to get to the balance between facing facts of Cf and doing this stinkin daily work, without wallowing each day in sadness. (as a matter of fact, that something that jazzysmom used to tell me...<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">)
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
The statement about a 'god card' was very disrespectful. God is brought up here bc thats a legitimate way that some people get help coping. Perhaps its not something that you use to cope, but its something that many others use. A little bit of respect for others differing opinions wouldn't hurt.
As to the OP's thoughts and questions. Yes I've felt the same way at times. I don't always, but when I do go through those bouts it also gets really bad. Something I've been trying to do more recently if I'm angry or resentful bc of my Cf, instead of fighting it and feeling guilty for it, I just let myself feel it.
I also rely heavily on prayer, and my personal beliefs and faith in God to cope. And to be honest, NO knock to this site that has helped me very much in the past, but at times I need a break from it and from the Cf world for a bit. If I find myself feeling frustrated by certain comments, or down bc of seeing the passing away of ones everytime I log on, I know I have to take a break. For me, Cf has to be a part of my life only, and not a daily discussion in my life. Its enough of my life as it is, bc I'm very compliant and devote hours each day to my physical care for Cf. Cf doesn't deserve any more attention than my body has to give it each day to live.
I use my support system, which is small but very strong. My husband understands and lets me vent, and my best girlfriend understands and is the other one person I can call in the middle of the night if I have to. You don't need an army of 20 people around you, just one or two rocks.
I stay busy, I stay distracted. I try to think of others instead of myself (which is not easy, but I try). I don't stay in denial-I keep working hard to fight my Cf every day. But I've to get to the balance between facing facts of Cf and doing this stinkin daily work, without wallowing each day in sadness. (as a matter of fact, that something that jazzysmom used to tell me...<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">)
 
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mamaScarlett

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<p>The statement about a 'god card' was very disrespectful. God is brought up here bc thats a legitimate way that some people get help coping. Perhaps its not something that you use to cope, but its something that many others use. A little bit of respect for others differing opinions wouldn't hurt.
<p>As to the OP's thoughts and questions. Yes I've felt the same way at times. I don't always, but when I do go through those bouts it also gets really bad. Something I've been trying to do more recently if I'm angry or resentful bc of my Cf, instead of fighting it and feeling guilty for it, I just let myself feel it.
<p>I also rely heavily on prayer, and my personal beliefs and faith in God to cope. And to be honest, NO knock to this site that has helped me very much in the past, but at times I need a break from it and from the Cf world for a bit. If I find myself feeling frustrated by certain comments, or down bc of seeing the passing away of ones everytime I log on, I know I have to take a break. For me, Cf has to be a part of my life only, and not a daily discussion in my life. Its enough of my life as it is, bc I'm very compliant and devote hours each day to my physical care for Cf. Cf doesn't deserve any more attention than my body has to give it each day to live.
<p>I use my support system, which is small but very strong. My husband understands and lets me vent, and my best girlfriend understands and is the other one person I can call in the middle of the night if I have to. You don't need an army of 20 people around you, just one or two rocks.
<p>I stay busy, I stay distracted. I try to think of others instead of myself (which is not easy, but I try). I don't stay in denial-I keep working hard to fight my Cf every day. But I've to get to the balance between facing facts of Cf and doing this stinkin daily work, without wallowing each day in sadness. (as a matter of fact, that something that jazzysmom used to tell me...<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">)
 
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Karenmichelle

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Perhaps "C"  should worry about his own heart and not others asses?!?! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Everyone needs something to believe in/ faith. It is their personal choice to what/ Who that may be. No one should be disrespectful of that.
Prayers, love and blessings to those in the fight for themselves or loved ones.
 
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Karenmichelle

Guest
Perhaps "C" should worry about his own heart and not others asses?!?! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Everyone needs something to believe in/ faith. It is their personal choice to what/ Who that may be. No one should be disrespectful of that.
Prayers, love and blessings to those in the fight for themselves or loved ones.
 
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Karenmichelle

Guest
<p>Perhaps "C" should worry about his own heart and not others asses?!?! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Everyone needs something to believe in/ faith. It is their personal choice to what/ Who that may be. No one should be disrespectful of that.
<p>Prayers, love and blessings to those in the fight for themselves or loved ones.
 
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Printer

Active member
Hi missT.
Venting is good.  Like you, I'm the only one in my family with CF and nobody understands.
Hang in, there will be a cure in your lifetime, maybe even mine.
 
Bill
 
 
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Printer

Active member
Hi missT.
Venting is good. Like you, I'm the only one in my family with CF and nobody understands.
Hang in, there will be a cure in your lifetime, maybe even mine.

Bill
 
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Printer

Active member
<p>Hi missT.
<p>Venting is good. Like you, I'm the only one in my family with CF and nobody understands.
<p>Hang in, there will be a cure in your lifetime, maybe even mine.
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<p>Bill
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beleache

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mamaScarlett</b></i>  
 
The statement about a 'god card' was very disrespectful. God is brought up here bc thats a legitimate way that some people get help coping. Perhaps its not something that you use to cope, but its something that many others use. A little bit of respect for others differing opinions wouldn't hurt.
 
As to the OP's thoughts and questions. Yes I've felt the same way at times. I don't always, but when I do go through those bouts it also gets really bad. Something I've been trying to do more recently if I'm angry or resentful bc of my Cf, instead of fighting it and feeling guilty for it, I just let myself feel it.
 
I also rely heavily on prayer, and my personal beliefs and faith in God to cope. And to be honest, NO knock to this site that has helped me very much in the past, but at times I need a break from it and from the Cf world for a bit. If I find myself feeling frustrated by certain comments, or down bc of seeing the passing away of ones everytime I log on,  I know I have to take a break. For me, Cf has to be a part of my life only, and not a daily discussion in my life. Its enough of my life as it is, bc I'm very compliant and devote hours each day to my physical care for Cf. Cf doesn't deserve any more attention than my body has to give it each day to live.
 
I use my support system, which is small but very strong. My husband understands and lets me vent, and my best girlfriend understands and is the other one person I can call in the middle of the night if I have to. You don't need an army of 20 people around you, just one or two rocks.
 
I stay busy, I stay distracted. I try to think of others instead of myself (which is not easy, but I try). I don't stay in denial-I keep working hard to fight my Cf every day. But I've to get to the balance between facing facts of Cf and doing this stinkin daily work, without wallowing each day in sadness. (as a matter of fact, that something that jazzysmom used to tell me...<img src="">)
 
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Beautifully Said !!  <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
 
 
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beleache

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mamaScarlett</b></i>

The statement about a 'god card' was very disrespectful. God is brought up here bc thats a legitimate way that some people get help coping. Perhaps its not something that you use to cope, but its something that many others use. A little bit of respect for others differing opinions wouldn't hurt.

As to the OP's thoughts and questions. Yes I've felt the same way at times. I don't always, but when I do go through those bouts it also gets really bad. Something I've been trying to do more recently if I'm angry or resentful bc of my Cf, instead of fighting it and feeling guilty for it, I just let myself feel it.

I also rely heavily on prayer, and my personal beliefs and faith in God to cope. And to be honest, NO knock to this site that has helped me very much in the past, but at times I need a break from it and from the Cf world for a bit. If I find myself feeling frustrated by certain comments, or down bc of seeing the passing away of ones everytime I log on, I know I have to take a break. For me, Cf has to be a part of my life only, and not a daily discussion in my life. Its enough of my life as it is, bc I'm very compliant and devote hours each day to my physical care for Cf. Cf doesn't deserve any more attention than my body has to give it each day to live.

I use my support system, which is small but very strong. My husband understands and lets me vent, and my best girlfriend understands and is the other one person I can call in the middle of the night if I have to. You don't need an army of 20 people around you, just one or two rocks.

I stay busy, I stay distracted. I try to think of others instead of myself (which is not easy, but I try). I don't stay in denial-I keep working hard to fight my Cf every day. But I've to get to the balance between facing facts of Cf and doing this stinkin daily work, without wallowing each day in sadness. (as a matter of fact, that something that jazzysmom used to tell me...<img src="">)

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Beautifully Said !! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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beleache

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<p><div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mamaScarlett</b></i>
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<p>The statement about a 'god card' was very disrespectful. God is brought up here bc thats a legitimate way that some people get help coping. Perhaps its not something that you use to cope, but its something that many others use. A little bit of respect for others differing opinions wouldn't hurt.
<p>
<p>As to the OP's thoughts and questions. Yes I've felt the same way at times. I don't always, but when I do go through those bouts it also gets really bad. Something I've been trying to do more recently if I'm angry or resentful bc of my Cf, instead of fighting it and feeling guilty for it, I just let myself feel it.
<p>
<p>I also rely heavily on prayer, and my personal beliefs and faith in God to cope. And to be honest, NO knock to this site that has helped me very much in the past, but at times I need a break from it and from the Cf world for a bit. If I find myself feeling frustrated by certain comments, or down bc of seeing the passing away of ones everytime I log on, I know I have to take a break. For me, Cf has to be a part of my life only, and not a daily discussion in my life. Its enough of my life as it is, bc I'm very compliant and devote hours each day to my physical care for Cf. Cf doesn't deserve any more attention than my body has to give it each day to live.
<p>
<p>I use my support system, which is small but very strong. My husband understands and lets me vent, and my best girlfriend understands and is the other one person I can call in the middle of the night if I have to. You don't need an army of 20 people around you, just one or two rocks.
<p>
<p>I stay busy, I stay distracted. I try to think of others instead of myself (which is not easy, but I try). I don't stay in denial-I keep working hard to fight my Cf every day. But I've to get to the balance between facing facts of Cf and doing this stinkin daily work, without wallowing each day in sadness. (as a matter of fact, that something that jazzysmom used to tell me...<img src="">)
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<p>Beautifully Said !! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
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tarheel

Guest
I'm going to be blatantly rude, scanboyd. Shove it. You don't have CF like we're talking about. I'm 18 and where her lung function is now. Cayston hasn't done a dam thing. Sometimes we need to rant without others sunshining on our gloomy day parade. Yippee for you.  You're 62. Honestly, I hope my life doesn't drag on for another 40+ years the way it is now.
So, shove it. That's my two cents.
 
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tarheel

Guest
I'm going to be blatantly rude, scanboyd. Shove it. You don't have CF like we're talking about. I'm 18 and where her lung function is now. Cayston hasn't done a dam thing. Sometimes we need to rant without others sunshining on our gloomy day parade. Yippee for you. You're 62. Honestly, I hope my life doesn't drag on for another 40+ years the way it is now.
So, shove it. That's my two cents.
 
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tarheel

Guest
<p>I'm going to be blatantly rude, scanboyd. Shove it. You don't have CF like we're talking about. I'm 18 and where her lung function is now. Cayston hasn't done a dam thing. Sometimes we need to rant without others sunshining on our gloomy day parade. Yippee for you. You're 62. Honestly, I hope my life doesn't drag on for another 40+ years the way it is now.
<p>So, shove it. <br />That's my two cents.
 
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Havoc

New member
I'll be blatantly rude as well. One of the reasons that I have left most of the CF groups is the constant b*tching. I have CF, I get it, some days suck (at times everyday sucks). I spent 10 years as a paramedic and do you know what I learned? Everybody is up to their eyeballs in crap. It might be CF, financial difficulties, marital problems, addiction, mental problems, legal problems, or whatever. Everybody has something that they are dealing with and just because you have CF doesn't mean that you earn the right to b*tch more. You think CF sucks? Think about a patient I had regularly who was paralyzed from the chest down in an accident. He could do nothing for himself, just lay there all day every day, at least until his Foley got infected or he got bedsores and had to take a vacation to the hospital. So many people have it worse off than any of us here, what right do we have to wallow in our own pity? Scanboyd, I completely agree with you (and I am loving life). Suck it up kids and make the most out of the life you have.
 
ETA:  I just re-read Scanboyd's post.  I though it was really quite positive in it's message.  It shows how easily people get their knickers in a bunch and the responses highlight how people would rather complain (or shoot the messenger) than look for the positive things in life.
 
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Havoc

New member
I'll be blatantly rude as well. One of the reasons that I have left most of the CF groups is the constant b*tching. I have CF, I get it, some days suck (at times everyday sucks). I spent 10 years as a paramedic and do you know what I learned? Everybody is up to their eyeballs in crap. It might be CF, financial difficulties, marital problems, addiction, mental problems, legal problems, or whatever. Everybody has something that they are dealing with and just because you have CF doesn't mean that you earn the right to b*tch more. You think CF sucks? Think about a patient I had regularly who was paralyzed from the chest down in an accident. He could do nothing for himself, just lay there all day every day, at least until his Foley got infected or he got bedsores and had to take a vacation to the hospital. So many people have it worse off than any of us here, what right do we have to wallow in our own pity? Scanboyd, I completely agree with you (and I am loving life). Suck it up kids and make the most out of the life you have.

ETA: I just re-read Scanboyd's post. I though it was really quite positive in it's message. It shows how easily people get their knickers in a bunch and the responses highlight how people would rather complain (or shoot the messenger) than look for the positive things in life.
 
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