When you thought about having children what did you do?

Sakem

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sakasuka</b></i>

different if I thought kids would be a wise idea for someone with my disease.</end quote>

I don't need to address it, again you already did with your response, if "I" thought it would be wise for someone with my disease. That's just it, that is your decission, but not everyones. I would not have kids having CF myself, but I am not going to tell someone else, I know nothing about their situation that having a child is selfish or even wrong. Just because you have CF does not mean your not going to be around to raise them....and kids are more resiliant than u give them credit for . There are plently of great single parents out there, either by choice or circumstances, that are raising well adjusted children. If we used your logic half the country would not be allowed to reproduce, while it may sound good on the service, and save our government a lot of money, we don't live in China. Everyday there are parents that are taken away from their child. So should no one with children be in the military, because oh my god, when they go away for a year, that child is going to be permently scared and probably always have feelings of insecurities, that their parent may leave them again at anytime.

The world is not perfect, I would rather raise a child that new the reality of my death, than to raise a child that thought I was invincible. I personally experienced this as a child, whose parent was violently murdered, if only they could of had an illness that I knew would cause their death and I had hope for a cure and a chance to tell them goodbye.
 

Sakem

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sakasuka</b></i>

different if I thought kids would be a wise idea for someone with my disease.</end quote>

I don't need to address it, again you already did with your response, if "I" thought it would be wise for someone with my disease. That's just it, that is your decission, but not everyones. I would not have kids having CF myself, but I am not going to tell someone else, I know nothing about their situation that having a child is selfish or even wrong. Just because you have CF does not mean your not going to be around to raise them....and kids are more resiliant than u give them credit for . There are plently of great single parents out there, either by choice or circumstances, that are raising well adjusted children. If we used your logic half the country would not be allowed to reproduce, while it may sound good on the service, and save our government a lot of money, we don't live in China. Everyday there are parents that are taken away from their child. So should no one with children be in the military, because oh my god, when they go away for a year, that child is going to be permently scared and probably always have feelings of insecurities, that their parent may leave them again at anytime.

The world is not perfect, I would rather raise a child that new the reality of my death, than to raise a child that thought I was invincible. I personally experienced this as a child, whose parent was violently murdered, if only they could of had an illness that I knew would cause their death and I had hope for a cure and a chance to tell them goodbye.
 

julie

New member
Lindsey, since you asked about not understanding what started this whole thing, for me, it was Amy's response to Kris. How she quoted some of Kris' stuff and responded. I'm not trying to disrespect amy here, I'm just trying to point out that you don't always have to make it so personal about someone's response. I didn't think the way she reacted was warranted and her responses have been really fiesty and downright rude lately. it's a pattern that's taking away from the purpose of this forum, that's why I felt the need to say something. I've kept quite about it for a long time now, and I've about had enough of it. I have every right to point it out too.
 

julie

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Lindsey, since you asked about not understanding what started this whole thing, for me, it was Amy's response to Kris. How she quoted some of Kris' stuff and responded. I'm not trying to disrespect amy here, I'm just trying to point out that you don't always have to make it so personal about someone's response. I didn't think the way she reacted was warranted and her responses have been really fiesty and downright rude lately. it's a pattern that's taking away from the purpose of this forum, that's why I felt the need to say something. I've kept quite about it for a long time now, and I've about had enough of it. I have every right to point it out too.
 

julie

New member
Lindsey, since you asked about not understanding what started this whole thing, for me, it was Amy's response to Kris. How she quoted some of Kris' stuff and responded. I'm not trying to disrespect amy here, I'm just trying to point out that you don't always have to make it so personal about someone's response. I didn't think the way she reacted was warranted and her responses have been really fiesty and downright rude lately. it's a pattern that's taking away from the purpose of this forum, that's why I felt the need to say something. I've kept quite about it for a long time now, and I've about had enough of it. I have every right to point it out too.
 

julie

New member
Lindsey, since you asked about not understanding what started this whole thing, for me, it was Amy's response to Kris. How she quoted some of Kris' stuff and responded. I'm not trying to disrespect amy here, I'm just trying to point out that you don't always have to make it so personal about someone's response. I didn't think the way she reacted was warranted and her responses have been really fiesty and downright rude lately. it's a pattern that's taking away from the purpose of this forum, that's why I felt the need to say something. I've kept quite about it for a long time now, and I've about had enough of it. I have every right to point it out too.
 

julie

New member
Lindsey, since you asked about not understanding what started this whole thing, for me, it was Amy's response to Kris. How she quoted some of Kris' stuff and responded. I'm not trying to disrespect amy here, I'm just trying to point out that you don't always have to make it so personal about someone's response. I didn't think the way she reacted was warranted and her responses have been really fiesty and downright rude lately. it's a pattern that's taking away from the purpose of this forum, that's why I felt the need to say something. I've kept quite about it for a long time now, and I've about had enough of it. I have every right to point it out too.
 

julie

New member
Lindsey, since you asked about not understanding what started this whole thing, for me, it was Amy's response to Kris. How she quoted some of Kris' stuff and responded. I'm not trying to disrespect amy here, I'm just trying to point out that you don't always have to make it so personal about someone's response. I didn't think the way she reacted was warranted and her responses have been really fiesty and downright rude lately. it's a pattern that's taking away from the purpose of this forum, that's why I felt the need to say something. I've kept quite about it for a long time now, and I've about had enough of it. I have every right to point it out too.
 
T

TIN

Guest
Some of the phrasing of these questions... "generating a cf patient" ?! hmm...
How about having a child who has cf? I'd hate to think that a person with cf is reduced to being a "cf patient" from the moment they are "generated" as if that defines their whole identity. There are thousands of cf carriers walking around and i doubt anyone would think about that and say, "wow! i cannot believe my parents had me and generated a cf carrier."

That said, if someone does have a child who is a known carrier, cannot fathom logic that would involve NOT telling the person when they are old enough to have children so that they can have information on their own genetic considerations. Maybe I am missing something here..

Really, not sure I understand what the original poster is looking for here?

Are you struggling with the idea of passing along any kind of cf genetics?

If that is the issue, there are other routes to parenthood.

If it is a question of becoming parents at all or not... thats a different thing entirely.
 
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TIN

Guest
Some of the phrasing of these questions... "generating a cf patient" ?! hmm...
How about having a child who has cf? I'd hate to think that a person with cf is reduced to being a "cf patient" from the moment they are "generated" as if that defines their whole identity. There are thousands of cf carriers walking around and i doubt anyone would think about that and say, "wow! i cannot believe my parents had me and generated a cf carrier."

That said, if someone does have a child who is a known carrier, cannot fathom logic that would involve NOT telling the person when they are old enough to have children so that they can have information on their own genetic considerations. Maybe I am missing something here..

Really, not sure I understand what the original poster is looking for here?

Are you struggling with the idea of passing along any kind of cf genetics?

If that is the issue, there are other routes to parenthood.

If it is a question of becoming parents at all or not... thats a different thing entirely.
 
T

TIN

Guest
Some of the phrasing of these questions... "generating a cf patient" ?! hmm...
How about having a child who has cf? I'd hate to think that a person with cf is reduced to being a "cf patient" from the moment they are "generated" as if that defines their whole identity. There are thousands of cf carriers walking around and i doubt anyone would think about that and say, "wow! i cannot believe my parents had me and generated a cf carrier."

That said, if someone does have a child who is a known carrier, cannot fathom logic that would involve NOT telling the person when they are old enough to have children so that they can have information on their own genetic considerations. Maybe I am missing something here..

Really, not sure I understand what the original poster is looking for here?

Are you struggling with the idea of passing along any kind of cf genetics?

If that is the issue, there are other routes to parenthood.

If it is a question of becoming parents at all or not... thats a different thing entirely.
 
T

TIN

Guest
Some of the phrasing of these questions... "generating a cf patient" ?! hmm...
How about having a child who has cf? I'd hate to think that a person with cf is reduced to being a "cf patient" from the moment they are "generated" as if that defines their whole identity. There are thousands of cf carriers walking around and i doubt anyone would think about that and say, "wow! i cannot believe my parents had me and generated a cf carrier."

That said, if someone does have a child who is a known carrier, cannot fathom logic that would involve NOT telling the person when they are old enough to have children so that they can have information on their own genetic considerations. Maybe I am missing something here..

Really, not sure I understand what the original poster is looking for here?

Are you struggling with the idea of passing along any kind of cf genetics?

If that is the issue, there are other routes to parenthood.

If it is a question of becoming parents at all or not... thats a different thing entirely.
 
T

TIN

Guest
Some of the phrasing of these questions... "generating a cf patient" ?! hmm...
How about having a child who has cf? I'd hate to think that a person with cf is reduced to being a "cf patient" from the moment they are "generated" as if that defines their whole identity. There are thousands of cf carriers walking around and i doubt anyone would think about that and say, "wow! i cannot believe my parents had me and generated a cf carrier."

That said, if someone does have a child who is a known carrier, cannot fathom logic that would involve NOT telling the person when they are old enough to have children so that they can have information on their own genetic considerations. Maybe I am missing something here..

Really, not sure I understand what the original poster is looking for here?

Are you struggling with the idea of passing along any kind of cf genetics?

If that is the issue, there are other routes to parenthood.

If it is a question of becoming parents at all or not... thats a different thing entirely.
 
T

TIN

Guest
Some of the phrasing of these questions... "generating a cf patient" ?! hmm...
How about having a child who has cf? I'd hate to think that a person with cf is reduced to being a "cf patient" from the moment they are "generated" as if that defines their whole identity. There are thousands of cf carriers walking around and i doubt anyone would think about that and say, "wow! i cannot believe my parents had me and generated a cf carrier."

That said, if someone does have a child who is a known carrier, cannot fathom logic that would involve NOT telling the person when they are old enough to have children so that they can have information on their own genetic considerations. Maybe I am missing something here..

Really, not sure I understand what the original poster is looking for here?

Are you struggling with the idea of passing along any kind of cf genetics?

If that is the issue, there are other routes to parenthood.

If it is a question of becoming parents at all or not... thats a different thing entirely.
 

tara

New member
I chose to have children, because for me I felt I had everything to give to a child.

CF (a disease I know that I have... not something that may happen to me in the future) has always been a part of daily life with me and my children. We fight CF, not just in a mild way but in a big way. Big ways that bring them patience, understanding and routine.

So I have decided to be selfless and think outside myself and not just about what I want, and devote my adulthood to raising these beautiful human beings.

A parody with my true feelings,

Tara
 

tara

New member
I chose to have children, because for me I felt I had everything to give to a child.

CF (a disease I know that I have... not something that may happen to me in the future) has always been a part of daily life with me and my children. We fight CF, not just in a mild way but in a big way. Big ways that bring them patience, understanding and routine.

So I have decided to be selfless and think outside myself and not just about what I want, and devote my adulthood to raising these beautiful human beings.

A parody with my true feelings,

Tara
 

tara

New member
I chose to have children, because for me I felt I had everything to give to a child.

CF (a disease I know that I have... not something that may happen to me in the future) has always been a part of daily life with me and my children. We fight CF, not just in a mild way but in a big way. Big ways that bring them patience, understanding and routine.

So I have decided to be selfless and think outside myself and not just about what I want, and devote my adulthood to raising these beautiful human beings.

A parody with my true feelings,

Tara
 

tara

New member
I chose to have children, because for me I felt I had everything to give to a child.

CF (a disease I know that I have... not something that may happen to me in the future) has always been a part of daily life with me and my children. We fight CF, not just in a mild way but in a big way. Big ways that bring them patience, understanding and routine.

So I have decided to be selfless and think outside myself and not just about what I want, and devote my adulthood to raising these beautiful human beings.

A parody with my true feelings,

Tara
 

tara

New member
I chose to have children, because for me I felt I had everything to give to a child.

CF (a disease I know that I have... not something that may happen to me in the future) has always been a part of daily life with me and my children. We fight CF, not just in a mild way but in a big way. Big ways that bring them patience, understanding and routine.

So I have decided to be selfless and think outside myself and not just about what I want, and devote my adulthood to raising these beautiful human beings.

A parody with my true feelings,

Tara
 

tara

New member
I chose to have children, because for me I felt I had everything to give to a child.

CF (a disease I know that I have... not something that may happen to me in the future) has always been a part of daily life with me and my children. We fight CF, not just in a mild way but in a big way. Big ways that bring them patience, understanding and routine.

So I have decided to be selfless and think outside myself and not just about what I want, and devote my adulthood to raising these beautiful human beings.

A parody with my true feelings,

Tara
 
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