When you thought about having children what did you do?

[mom2lillian]

You know we could have a really productive thread showing everyone's views on this if some of you would share your view so that everyone could read it and decide for themselves.

Instead some of you seem more bent on attacking others point of view. How many threads like this does there have to be before we realize it is completely UNPRODUCTIVE?

I must say that this time I feel Amy kept her mouth shut and told her side of things and left it at that. Then her point of view was attacked. If my point of view (and personal priorities) was attacked in such a manner I too woudl retaliate which is exactly what she did. I have not read all the additional bickering and garbage but I dont think this time it was started by Amy, I think we have KrisJohn to thank for that this time.

 

[mom2lillian]

You know we could have a really productive thread showing everyone's views on this if some of you would share your view so that everyone could read it and decide for themselves.

Instead some of you seem more bent on attacking others point of view. How many threads like this does there have to be before we realize it is completely UNPRODUCTIVE?

I must say that this time I feel Amy kept her mouth shut and told her side of things and left it at that. Then her point of view was attacked. If my point of view (and personal priorities) was attacked in such a manner I too woudl retaliate which is exactly what she did. I have not read all the additional bickering and garbage but I dont think this time it was started by Amy, I think we have KrisJohn to thank for that this time.

 

[mom2lillian]

You know we could have a really productive thread showing everyone's views on this if some of you would share your view so that everyone could read it and decide for themselves.

Instead some of you seem more bent on attacking others point of view. How many threads like this does there have to be before we realize it is completely UNPRODUCTIVE?

I must say that this time I feel Amy kept her mouth shut and told her side of things and left it at that. Then her point of view was attacked. If my point of view (and personal priorities) was attacked in such a manner I too woudl retaliate which is exactly what she did. I have not read all the additional bickering and garbage but I dont think this time it was started by Amy, I think we have KrisJohn to thank for that this time.

 

[mom2lillian]

You know we could have a really productive thread showing everyone's views on this if some of you would share your view so that everyone could read it and decide for themselves.

Instead some of you seem more bent on attacking others point of view. How many threads like this does there have to be before we realize it is completely UNPRODUCTIVE?

I must say that this time I feel Amy kept her mouth shut and told her side of things and left it at that. Then her point of view was attacked. If my point of view (and personal priorities) was attacked in such a manner I too woudl retaliate which is exactly what she did. I have not read all the additional bickering and garbage but I dont think this time it was started by Amy, I think we have KrisJohn to thank for that this time.

 

[mom2lillian]

You know we could have a really productive thread showing everyone's views on this if some of you would share your view so that everyone could read it and decide for themselves.

Instead some of you seem more bent on attacking others point of view. How many threads like this does there have to be before we realize it is completely UNPRODUCTIVE?

I must say that this time I feel Amy kept her mouth shut and told her side of things and left it at that. Then her point of view was attacked. If my point of view (and personal priorities) was attacked in such a manner I too woudl retaliate which is exactly what she did. I have not read all the additional bickering and garbage but I dont think this time it was started by Amy, I think we have KrisJohn to thank for that this time.

 

[mom2lillian]

You know we could have a really productive thread showing everyone's views on this if some of you would share your view so that everyone could read it and decide for themselves.

Instead some of you seem more bent on attacking others point of view. How many threads like this does there have to be before we realize it is completely UNPRODUCTIVE?

I must say that this time I feel Amy kept her mouth shut and told her side of things and left it at that. Then her point of view was attacked. If my point of view (and personal priorities) was attacked in such a manner I too woudl retaliate which is exactly what she did. I have not read all the additional bickering and garbage but I dont think this time it was started by Amy, I think we have KrisJohn to thank for that this time.

 

[julie]

Nicole, it's not amy's point of view I'm attacking. I don't agree with her point of view, I feel differently about the matter. But if that's how she feels and it works for her, then Great. more power to her. what I have a problem with is her nasty response to Kris. There is no reason why we need to talk to eachother that way.

I think I posted my feeling about that in a very kind manner. It wasn't until Amy retaliated towards me that I posted how fed up I am with her treatment of others lately. I'm not tearing her down, she's a strong smart woman and has a lot to share with us. But just because she "helps" us all out, doesn't mean I'm going to sit back and watch her be downright rude to someone else who was just sharing THEIR opinion.

There are ways that we call all share our point of views without making it a personal attack.

 

[julie]

Nicole, it's not amy's point of view I'm attacking. I don't agree with her point of view, I feel differently about the matter. But if that's how she feels and it works for her, then Great. more power to her. what I have a problem with is her nasty response to Kris. There is no reason why we need to talk to eachother that way.

I think I posted my feeling about that in a very kind manner. It wasn't until Amy retaliated towards me that I posted how fed up I am with her treatment of others lately. I'm not tearing her down, she's a strong smart woman and has a lot to share with us. But just because she "helps" us all out, doesn't mean I'm going to sit back and watch her be downright rude to someone else who was just sharing THEIR opinion.

There are ways that we call all share our point of views without making it a personal attack.

 

[julie]

Nicole, it's not amy's point of view I'm attacking. I don't agree with her point of view, I feel differently about the matter. But if that's how she feels and it works for her, then Great. more power to her. what I have a problem with is her nasty response to Kris. There is no reason why we need to talk to eachother that way.

I think I posted my feeling about that in a very kind manner. It wasn't until Amy retaliated towards me that I posted how fed up I am with her treatment of others lately. I'm not tearing her down, she's a strong smart woman and has a lot to share with us. But just because she "helps" us all out, doesn't mean I'm going to sit back and watch her be downright rude to someone else who was just sharing THEIR opinion.

There are ways that we call all share our point of views without making it a personal attack.

 

[julie]

Nicole, it's not amy's point of view I'm attacking. I don't agree with her point of view, I feel differently about the matter. But if that's how she feels and it works for her, then Great. more power to her. what I have a problem with is her nasty response to Kris. There is no reason why we need to talk to eachother that way.

I think I posted my feeling about that in a very kind manner. It wasn't until Amy retaliated towards me that I posted how fed up I am with her treatment of others lately. I'm not tearing her down, she's a strong smart woman and has a lot to share with us. But just because she "helps" us all out, doesn't mean I'm going to sit back and watch her be downright rude to someone else who was just sharing THEIR opinion.

There are ways that we call all share our point of views without making it a personal attack.

 

[julie]

Nicole, it's not amy's point of view I'm attacking. I don't agree with her point of view, I feel differently about the matter. But if that's how she feels and it works for her, then Great. more power to her. what I have a problem with is her nasty response to Kris. There is no reason why we need to talk to eachother that way.

I think I posted my feeling about that in a very kind manner. It wasn't until Amy retaliated towards me that I posted how fed up I am with her treatment of others lately. I'm not tearing her down, she's a strong smart woman and has a lot to share with us. But just because she "helps" us all out, doesn't mean I'm going to sit back and watch her be downright rude to someone else who was just sharing THEIR opinion.

There are ways that we call all share our point of views without making it a personal attack.

 

[julie]

Nicole, it's not amy's point of view I'm attacking. I don't agree with her point of view, I feel differently about the matter. But if that's how she feels and it works for her, then Great. more power to her. what I have a problem with is her nasty response to Kris. There is no reason why we need to talk to eachother that way.

I think I posted my feeling about that in a very kind manner. It wasn't until Amy retaliated towards me that I posted how fed up I am with her treatment of others lately. I'm not tearing her down, she's a strong smart woman and has a lot to share with us. But just because she "helps" us all out, doesn't mean I'm going to sit back and watch her be downright rude to someone else who was just sharing THEIR opinion.

There are ways that we call all share our point of views without making it a personal attack.

 

[Diane]

Allow me to point out what the problem everyone has with Amy before this thread gets locked . I will do this with tact and respect to everyone involved. The problem that people have time and time again with Amy isnt <b>what</b> she says , its <b>how</b> she says it. Amy tends to come off as demeaning and condescending to others. She may not realize it or may not have been taught that it is offensive and may create problems. I think Amy is smart and really wants to be liked, but just comes out rubbing people the wrong way. Its not easy online to interpret humor , sarcasm, or just plain rudeness. I think in Amy's case, she just speaks first without remembering that some people on here especially the new members , may see her views <b>in her words</b> as very rude ,nasty and condescending. To those of us who think it through before we hit the reply button, it can be slightly annoying. I think that about sums it up.
Its nothing personal against Amy , it's just the way she handles things on here.

Now see i did that with tact and respect <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[Diane]

Allow me to point out what the problem everyone has with Amy before this thread gets locked . I will do this with tact and respect to everyone involved. The problem that people have time and time again with Amy isnt <b>what</b> she says , its <b>how</b> she says it. Amy tends to come off as demeaning and condescending to others. She may not realize it or may not have been taught that it is offensive and may create problems. I think Amy is smart and really wants to be liked, but just comes out rubbing people the wrong way. Its not easy online to interpret humor , sarcasm, or just plain rudeness. I think in Amy's case, she just speaks first without remembering that some people on here especially the new members , may see her views <b>in her words</b> as very rude ,nasty and condescending. To those of us who think it through before we hit the reply button, it can be slightly annoying. I think that about sums it up.
Its nothing personal against Amy , it's just the way she handles things on here.

Now see i did that with tact and respect <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[Diane]

Allow me to point out what the problem everyone has with Amy before this thread gets locked . I will do this with tact and respect to everyone involved. The problem that people have time and time again with Amy isnt <b>what</b> she says , its <b>how</b> she says it. Amy tends to come off as demeaning and condescending to others. She may not realize it or may not have been taught that it is offensive and may create problems. I think Amy is smart and really wants to be liked, but just comes out rubbing people the wrong way. Its not easy online to interpret humor , sarcasm, or just plain rudeness. I think in Amy's case, she just speaks first without remembering that some people on here especially the new members , may see her views <b>in her words</b> as very rude ,nasty and condescending. To those of us who think it through before we hit the reply button, it can be slightly annoying. I think that about sums it up.
Its nothing personal against Amy , it's just the way she handles things on here.

Now see i did that with tact and respect <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[Diane]

Allow me to point out what the problem everyone has with Amy before this thread gets locked . I will do this with tact and respect to everyone involved. The problem that people have time and time again with Amy isnt <b>what</b> she says , its <b>how</b> she says it. Amy tends to come off as demeaning and condescending to others. She may not realize it or may not have been taught that it is offensive and may create problems. I think Amy is smart and really wants to be liked, but just comes out rubbing people the wrong way. Its not easy online to interpret humor , sarcasm, or just plain rudeness. I think in Amy's case, she just speaks first without remembering that some people on here especially the new members , may see her views <b>in her words</b> as very rude ,nasty and condescending. To those of us who think it through before we hit the reply button, it can be slightly annoying. I think that about sums it up.
Its nothing personal against Amy , it's just the way she handles things on here.

Now see i did that with tact and respect <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[Diane]

Allow me to point out what the problem everyone has with Amy before this thread gets locked . I will do this with tact and respect to everyone involved. The problem that people have time and time again with Amy isnt <b>what</b> she says , its <b>how</b> she says it. Amy tends to come off as demeaning and condescending to others. She may not realize it or may not have been taught that it is offensive and may create problems. I think Amy is smart and really wants to be liked, but just comes out rubbing people the wrong way. Its not easy online to interpret humor , sarcasm, or just plain rudeness. I think in Amy's case, she just speaks first without remembering that some people on here especially the new members , may see her views <b>in her words</b> as very rude ,nasty and condescending. To those of us who think it through before we hit the reply button, it can be slightly annoying. I think that about sums it up.
Its nothing personal against Amy , it's just the way she handles things on here.

Now see i did that with tact and respect <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[Diane]

Allow me to point out what the problem everyone has with Amy before this thread gets locked . I will do this with tact and respect to everyone involved. The problem that people have time and time again with Amy isnt <b>what</b> she says , its <b>how</b> she says it. Amy tends to come off as demeaning and condescending to others. She may not realize it or may not have been taught that it is offensive and may create problems. I think Amy is smart and really wants to be liked, but just comes out rubbing people the wrong way. Its not easy online to interpret humor , sarcasm, or just plain rudeness. I think in Amy's case, she just speaks first without remembering that some people on here especially the new members , may see her views <b>in her words</b> as very rude ,nasty and condescending. To those of us who think it through before we hit the reply button, it can be slightly annoying. I think that about sums it up.
Its nothing personal against Amy , it's just the way she handles things on here.

Now see i did that with tact and respect <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

 

[Emily65Roses]

Amy, yell if I'm speaking incorrectly here....

What you guys never seem to understand... is she doesn't seem to care about tiptoeing around her words to make sure no one is offended. No matter what you say - you could be the nicest person on the planet - you WILL offend <i>someone</i>. There's no avoiding it. So Amy says what she wants, how she wants. She says what she <b>means</b>, and no amount of you guys going "You need to grow up, mature, watch your words, be kinder" blah blah blah, is going to change her. So I don't know why you still argue with her or about her. If you don't like her, do as she suggests, block her. Or just don't read her. It's not that hard. She's made it clear she's not changing, and she is staying. So those of you that don't like her have to work around her. She has a right to be here too.

Talking about being how fantastically mature and respectful you guys are isn't going to change how SHE is. So you can be all high and mighty on yourselves all you like. It isn't going to make her stop one day and go "Oh man! I've been rude <i>all this time</i>?!" and suddenly change. I have better chances of monkeys flying out of my ass. She is who she is, and she doesn't have to change for anyone. And I might add... talking about how fantastically respectful and mature you are, while saying (or insinuating) that someone else is <u>not</u> actually makes you look kind of ridiculous.

But please... carry on.

 

[Emily65Roses]

Amy, yell if I'm speaking incorrectly here....

What you guys never seem to understand... is she doesn't seem to care about tiptoeing around her words to make sure no one is offended. No matter what you say - you could be the nicest person on the planet - you WILL offend <i>someone</i>. There's no avoiding it. So Amy says what she wants, how she wants. She says what she <b>means</b>, and no amount of you guys going "You need to grow up, mature, watch your words, be kinder" blah blah blah, is going to change her. So I don't know why you still argue with her or about her. If you don't like her, do as she suggests, block her. Or just don't read her. It's not that hard. She's made it clear she's not changing, and she is staying. So those of you that don't like her have to work around her. She has a right to be here too.

Talking about being how fantastically mature and respectful you guys are isn't going to change how SHE is. So you can be all high and mighty on yourselves all you like. It isn't going to make her stop one day and go "Oh man! I've been rude <i>all this time</i>?!" and suddenly change. I have better chances of monkeys flying out of my ass. She is who she is, and she doesn't have to change for anyone. And I might add... talking about how fantastically respectful and mature you are, while saying (or insinuating) that someone else is <u>not</u> actually makes you look kind of ridiculous.

But please... carry on.