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65rosessamurai

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Welcome to the forum!
I agree with what Allie and Jazzysmom said, but I'm in disagreement with what sakasuka says about children.

I don't see it as a selfish thing if the woman loves you enough to want an offspring from you, despite a CF'rs unknown lifespan. If the conception problem and single parenting situation is basically all understood and figured out, I don't see where selfishness comes into play. Besides, whether the child is adopted, from a doner, or from the CF'r, either way, having a child would still mean making plans for a single parent in the future...advice I will be heeding when my wife asks me again about tests and such!

Good luck with how things go, I know it's a touchy subject among future couples, but something to "hash-out" before marriage.

BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
Reason why I bring this one up is because that's the train of thought my ex had--she only wanted "cute babies" and having any love for me was not in the formula!! I see that as not only "selfish", but just a hint as to how short the marriage life will be (based on experience, of course).
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
Welcome to the forum!
I agree with what Allie and Jazzysmom said, but I'm in disagreement with what sakasuka says about children.

I don't see it as a selfish thing if the woman loves you enough to want an offspring from you, despite a CF'rs unknown lifespan. If the conception problem and single parenting situation is basically all understood and figured out, I don't see where selfishness comes into play. Besides, whether the child is adopted, from a doner, or from the CF'r, either way, having a child would still mean making plans for a single parent in the future...advice I will be heeding when my wife asks me again about tests and such!

Good luck with how things go, I know it's a touchy subject among future couples, but something to "hash-out" before marriage.

BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
Reason why I bring this one up is because that's the train of thought my ex had--she only wanted "cute babies" and having any love for me was not in the formula!! I see that as not only "selfish", but just a hint as to how short the marriage life will be (based on experience, of course).
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
Welcome to the forum!
I agree with what Allie and Jazzysmom said, but I'm in disagreement with what sakasuka says about children.

I don't see it as a selfish thing if the woman loves you enough to want an offspring from you, despite a CF'rs unknown lifespan. If the conception problem and single parenting situation is basically all understood and figured out, I don't see where selfishness comes into play. Besides, whether the child is adopted, from a doner, or from the CF'r, either way, having a child would still mean making plans for a single parent in the future...advice I will be heeding when my wife asks me again about tests and such!

Good luck with how things go, I know it's a touchy subject among future couples, but something to "hash-out" before marriage.

BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
Reason why I bring this one up is because that's the train of thought my ex had--she only wanted "cute babies" and having any love for me was not in the formula!! I see that as not only "selfish", but just a hint as to how short the marriage life will be (based on experience, of course).
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
Welcome to the forum!
I agree with what Allie and Jazzysmom said, but I'm in disagreement with what sakasuka says about children.

I don't see it as a selfish thing if the woman loves you enough to want an offspring from you, despite a CF'rs unknown lifespan. If the conception problem and single parenting situation is basically all understood and figured out, I don't see where selfishness comes into play. Besides, whether the child is adopted, from a doner, or from the CF'r, either way, having a child would still mean making plans for a single parent in the future...advice I will be heeding when my wife asks me again about tests and such!

Good luck with how things go, I know it's a touchy subject among future couples, but something to "hash-out" before marriage.

BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
Reason why I bring this one up is because that's the train of thought my ex had--she only wanted "cute babies" and having any love for me was not in the formula!! I see that as not only "selfish", but just a hint as to how short the marriage life will be (based on experience, of course).
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>65rosessamurai</b></i>



BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
</end quote></div>


Do you see where you talked about what she wants?

Ya, that's the part that's selfish. It's all about what the parents want. You just said so yourself. You stated it's something that she wants.

No where do you take into consideration what is best for the child. This is the definition of selfish.
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>65rosessamurai</b></i>



BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
</end quote></div>


Do you see where you talked about what she wants?

Ya, that's the part that's selfish. It's all about what the parents want. You just said so yourself. You stated it's something that she wants.

No where do you take into consideration what is best for the child. This is the definition of selfish.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>65rosessamurai</b></i>



BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
</end quote></div>


Do you see where you talked about what she wants?

Ya, that's the part that's selfish. It's all about what the parents want. You just said so yourself. You stated it's something that she wants.

No where do you take into consideration what is best for the child. This is the definition of selfish.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>65rosessamurai</b></i>



BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
</end quote></div>


Do you see where you talked about what she wants?

Ya, that's the part that's selfish. It's all about what the parents want. You just said so yourself. You stated it's something that she wants.

No where do you take into consideration what is best for the child. This is the definition of selfish.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>65rosessamurai</b></i>



BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
</end quote>


Do you see where you talked about what she wants?

Ya, that's the part that's selfish. It's all about what the parents want. You just said so yourself. You stated it's something that she wants.

No where do you take into consideration what is best for the child. This is the definition of selfish.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>65rosessamurai</b></i>



BTW, an added point, I'm sure the woman in question wants a child because she loves you, not because she wants "cute babies", right?! That's where I don't see it as "selfish".
</end quote>


Do you see where you talked about what she wants?

Ya, that's the part that's selfish. It's all about what the parents want. You just said so yourself. You stated it's something that she wants.

No where do you take into consideration what is best for the child. This is the definition of selfish.
 
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eli

New member
Hi all, i just wanted to say CF or no CF none of us know how long we are going to live. So i don't thnk people should base their decisons on just that.

There are many factors we all as people need to go over before having children and if you are healthy (besides your CF) then i say do what your heart tells you.
There is no right or wrong, its a personal decision that we are all entitled to make no matter what we have going on in our lives.

Well, thats my 2 cents.

Thats life<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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eli

New member
Hi all, i just wanted to say CF or no CF none of us know how long we are going to live. So i don't thnk people should base their decisons on just that.

There are many factors we all as people need to go over before having children and if you are healthy (besides your CF) then i say do what your heart tells you.
There is no right or wrong, its a personal decision that we are all entitled to make no matter what we have going on in our lives.

Well, thats my 2 cents.

Thats life<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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eli

New member
Hi all, i just wanted to say CF or no CF none of us know how long we are going to live. So i don't thnk people should base their decisons on just that.

There are many factors we all as people need to go over before having children and if you are healthy (besides your CF) then i say do what your heart tells you.
There is no right or wrong, its a personal decision that we are all entitled to make no matter what we have going on in our lives.

Well, thats my 2 cents.

Thats life<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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eli

New member
Hi all, i just wanted to say CF or no CF none of us know how long we are going to live. So i don't thnk people should base their decisons on just that.

There are many factors we all as people need to go over before having children and if you are healthy (besides your CF) then i say do what your heart tells you.
There is no right or wrong, its a personal decision that we are all entitled to make no matter what we have going on in our lives.

Well, thats my 2 cents.

Thats life<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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eli

New member
Hi all, i just wanted to say CF or no CF none of us know how long we are going to live. So i don't thnk people should base their decisons on just that.

There are many factors we all as people need to go over before having children and if you are healthy (besides your CF) then i say do what your heart tells you.
There is no right or wrong, its a personal decision that we are all entitled to make no matter what we have going on in our lives.

Well, thats my 2 cents.

Thats life<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
E

eli

New member
Hi all, i just wanted to say CF or no CF none of us know how long we are going to live. So i don't thnk people should base their decisons on just that.

There are many factors we all as people need to go over before having children and if you are healthy (besides your CF) then i say do what your heart tells you.
There is no right or wrong, its a personal decision that we are all entitled to make no matter what we have going on in our lives.

Well, thats my 2 cents.

Thats life<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
So, sakasuka, you gonna ask the baby what it wants?
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
So, sakasuka, you gonna ask the baby what it wants?
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
So, sakasuka, you gonna ask the baby what it wants?
 
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