Emily65Roses
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I wish I could be as lucky as you to hold Mike while he FRAGGING DIES after suffering his whole life.
We should ALL be so lucky. <3
We should ALL be so lucky. <3
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Question for Spouses
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Emily65Roses
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I wish I could be as lucky as you to hold Mike while he FRAGGING DIES after suffering his whole life.
We should ALL be so lucky. <3
We should ALL be so lucky. <3
My oh my......first let me say that the WS forum is just that. The WS forum. What they choose to discuss, promote, encourage etc is not our problems. I feel bad that people like Allie who needed the WS support dont feel comfortable there nor agree with there exchanges of thougts. HOWEVER; since it was brought to our attention & does have the potential of affecting us either now or later let me give my opinion on the topic of infidelity. The love, intimacy or plain old sex that is missing is more than just that if it pushes the WS to cheat. I truly feel that if U are bonded with your mate in heart, mind & spirit that it will hold U even if the physical aspect can no longer be. I also realize that some people just dont have that strength. That does not give them the right to commit adultry. I know when I have had my bad times & cant perform in the bedroom that I feel bad for my hubby, but he loves me & understands & we work around it. I would be HORRIFIED to find out that he has cheated while WITH me because of my inability. Dont U think I would if I could would be my thoughts. I would much rather have him leave me then cheat on me. That is harsh yes, but at least he would be honest with himself & me if he did that. Just as we find the idea repulsive, they find it understandable. All I can suggest is let them live their lives their ways & we live our lives our way!
My oh my......first let me say that the WS forum is just that. The WS forum. What they choose to discuss, promote, encourage etc is not our problems. I feel bad that people like Allie who needed the WS support dont feel comfortable there nor agree with there exchanges of thougts. HOWEVER; since it was brought to our attention & does have the potential of affecting us either now or later let me give my opinion on the topic of infidelity. The love, intimacy or plain old sex that is missing is more than just that if it pushes the WS to cheat. I truly feel that if U are bonded with your mate in heart, mind & spirit that it will hold U even if the physical aspect can no longer be. I also realize that some people just dont have that strength. That does not give them the right to commit adultry. I know when I have had my bad times & cant perform in the bedroom that I feel bad for my hubby, but he loves me & understands & we work around it. I would be HORRIFIED to find out that he has cheated while WITH me because of my inability. Dont U think I would if I could would be my thoughts. I would much rather have him leave me then cheat on me. That is harsh yes, but at least he would be honest with himself & me if he did that. Just as we find the idea repulsive, they find it understandable. All I can suggest is let them live their lives their ways & we live our lives our way!
Emily65Roses
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And then laugh when Karma kicks them in the big ugly butt. <img src="i/expressions/devil.gif" border="0">
Emily65Roses
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And then laugh when Karma kicks them in the big ugly butt. <img src="i/expressions/devil.gif" border="0">
lilMeggies
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ahhh I don't think i could read another word in that forum....wow....something is seriously wrong with many of those people. I'm shaking it upsets me so much <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
lilMeggies
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ahhh I don't think i could read another word in that forum....wow....something is seriously wrong with many of those people. I'm shaking it upsets me so much <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
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ooooo apparently they found out about this website/forum post.
Big Surprise.
If we have any anon. posters we know where they come from.
Anyway if Allie wants to be me, can I be her? I'll fight ya Emily!
Big Surprise.
If we have any anon. posters we know where they come from.
Anyway if Allie wants to be me, can I be her? I'll fight ya Emily!
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ooooo apparently they found out about this website/forum post.
Big Surprise.
If we have any anon. posters we know where they come from.
Anyway if Allie wants to be me, can I be her? I'll fight ya Emily!
Big Surprise.
If we have any anon. posters we know where they come from.
Anyway if Allie wants to be me, can I be her? I'll fight ya Emily!
Emily65Roses
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Just out of curiosity, how do you know they found us here?
Emily65Roses
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Just out of curiosity, how do you know they found us here?
Purplelungz
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I told my husband about this and he was at a loss for words. First before I could explain fully he said your always able to have sex if you have a mouth and fingers LOL. ok sorry if that was inappropriate but he is right, thats what we were saying earlier about other ways of pleasing each other. Then I explained further and he got this look of "what did I just hear". I told him what they said to Allie. All he had to say is there is something wrong with those people. It shouldnt matter if you have to take care of them for 50 years. Vows say better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do you part. Not stick in there for as long as you can just cus. Seriously i think sickness can either make or break a relationship. I do feel for those that take care of a spouse for 20+ who is mean and bitter and who doesnt know who they are most of the time. I have seen it, its in my family. I just dont see how someone who says they truely with out a doubt love their spouse can go and cheat on them just cus they want some 'lovin'.
Purplelungz
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I told my husband about this and he was at a loss for words. First before I could explain fully he said your always able to have sex if you have a mouth and fingers LOL. ok sorry if that was inappropriate but he is right, thats what we were saying earlier about other ways of pleasing each other. Then I explained further and he got this look of "what did I just hear". I told him what they said to Allie. All he had to say is there is something wrong with those people. It shouldnt matter if you have to take care of them for 50 years. Vows say better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do you part. Not stick in there for as long as you can just cus. Seriously i think sickness can either make or break a relationship. I do feel for those that take care of a spouse for 20+ who is mean and bitter and who doesnt know who they are most of the time. I have seen it, its in my family. I just dont see how someone who says they truely with out a doubt love their spouse can go and cheat on them just cus they want some 'lovin'.
Purplelungz
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oh man i just read this from their board. I know this is silly going back and forth and ranting. But this one just made me so mad. Its like have we not had disscussion after disscusion about feelig guilty to our family and significant others? Thats probably what contributed to alot of their spouses depression is them feeling guilty for being sick.
Anyway here is what this guy said to emily and what made me mad.
<blockquote>Quote<br><hr>You obviously do not understand the impact of caring for a chronically ill spouse perhaps for decades. Personally, I would never willingly put that burden on another person, but you have no problem putting this burden on another person. Just because you have CF does not endow you with superior wisdom nor make your perspective any more valuable than that of anyone else. <hr></blockquote>
Anyway here is what this guy said to emily and what made me mad.
<blockquote>Quote<br><hr>You obviously do not understand the impact of caring for a chronically ill spouse perhaps for decades. Personally, I would never willingly put that burden on another person, but you have no problem putting this burden on another person. Just because you have CF does not endow you with superior wisdom nor make your perspective any more valuable than that of anyone else. <hr></blockquote>
Purplelungz
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oh man i just read this from their board. I know this is silly going back and forth and ranting. But this one just made me so mad. Its like have we not had disscussion after disscusion about feelig guilty to our family and significant others? Thats probably what contributed to alot of their spouses depression is them feeling guilty for being sick.
Anyway here is what this guy said to emily and what made me mad.
<blockquote>Quote<br><hr>You obviously do not understand the impact of caring for a chronically ill spouse perhaps for decades. Personally, I would never willingly put that burden on another person, but you have no problem putting this burden on another person. Just because you have CF does not endow you with superior wisdom nor make your perspective any more valuable than that of anyone else. <hr></blockquote>
Anyway here is what this guy said to emily and what made me mad.
<blockquote>Quote<br><hr>You obviously do not understand the impact of caring for a chronically ill spouse perhaps for decades. Personally, I would never willingly put that burden on another person, but you have no problem putting this burden on another person. Just because you have CF does not endow you with superior wisdom nor make your perspective any more valuable than that of anyone else. <hr></blockquote>