Single CF'rs

[SeeEff]

I had a first date with a guy who SMOKED!!! (cigarettes, in case anyone was wondering)
I didn't know that when I agreed to the date. So I had to explain that I had CF. He didn't really understand/care and still smoked on our date. Needless to say, that was our ONLY date.

Another 1st date, the guy took me to a cafe that only served desserts. I cannot eat really rich chocolate or dairy without getting congested and coughing a ton. So I had to tell him I had CF. He felt sooooo bad about his choice of date destinations, poor thing. We ended up dating for a few months.

So it depends on the situation, but you will have to explain eventually. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[SeeEff]

I had a first date with a guy who SMOKED!!! (cigarettes, in case anyone was wondering)
I didn't know that when I agreed to the date. So I had to explain that I had CF. He didn't really understand/care and still smoked on our date. Needless to say, that was our ONLY date.

Another 1st date, the guy took me to a cafe that only served desserts. I cannot eat really rich chocolate or dairy without getting congested and coughing a ton. So I had to tell him I had CF. He felt sooooo bad about his choice of date destinations, poor thing. We ended up dating for a few months.

So it depends on the situation, but you will have to explain eventually. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[SeeEff]

I had a first date with a guy who SMOKED!!! (cigarettes, in case anyone was wondering)
I didn't know that when I agreed to the date. So I had to explain that I had CF. He didn't really understand/care and still smoked on our date. Needless to say, that was our ONLY date.

Another 1st date, the guy took me to a cafe that only served desserts. I cannot eat really rich chocolate or dairy without getting congested and coughing a ton. So I had to tell him I had CF. He felt sooooo bad about his choice of date destinations, poor thing. We ended up dating for a few months.

So it depends on the situation, but you will have to explain eventually. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[SeeEff]

I had a first date with a guy who SMOKED!!! (cigarettes, in case anyone was wondering)
I didn't know that when I agreed to the date. So I had to explain that I had CF. He didn't really understand/care and still smoked on our date. Needless to say, that was our ONLY date.

Another 1st date, the guy took me to a cafe that only served desserts. I cannot eat really rich chocolate or dairy without getting congested and coughing a ton. So I had to tell him I had CF. He felt sooooo bad about his choice of date destinations, poor thing. We ended up dating for a few months.

So it depends on the situation, but you will have to explain eventually. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[SeeEff]

I had a first date with a guy who SMOKED!!! (cigarettes, in case anyone was wondering)
I didn't know that when I agreed to the date. So I had to explain that I had CF. He didn't really understand/care and still smoked on our date. Needless to say, that was our ONLY date.

Another 1st date, the guy took me to a cafe that only served desserts. I cannot eat really rich chocolate or dairy without getting congested and coughing a ton. So I had to tell him I had CF. He felt sooooo bad about his choice of date destinations, poor thing. We ended up dating for a few months.

So it depends on the situation, but you will have to explain eventually. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[onlyoneloveinmylife]

I recently met a lovely woman and I told her within 20 minutes of meeting her.
I figured it was only fair for her to know what she might be getting herself
into. And lucky for me she was fine with it.

 

[onlyoneloveinmylife]

I recently met a lovely woman and I told her within 20 minutes of meeting her.
I figured it was only fair for her to know what she might be getting herself
into. And lucky for me she was fine with it.

 

[onlyoneloveinmylife]

I recently met a lovely woman and I told her within 20 minutes of meeting her.
I figured it was only fair for her to know what she might be getting herself
into. And lucky for me she was fine with it.

 

[onlyoneloveinmylife]

I recently met a lovely woman and I told her within 20 minutes of meeting her.
I figured it was only fair for her to know what she might be getting herself
into. And lucky for me she was fine with it.

 

[onlyoneloveinmylife]

I recently met a lovely woman and I told her within 20 minutes of meeting her.
I figured it was only fair for her to know what she might be getting herself
into. And lucky for me she was fine with it.

 

[NYCLawGirl]

Okay, at the risk of sounding like some trite hallmark card (and please keep in mind that I am single and have CF as you read this, so I do in fact know how hard it is): there are so many wonderful people out there who are totally willing to date, fall in love with, and marry individuals with Cystic Fibrosis or other medical problems that it's not worth pining away over the ones who can't or won't deal with us. I haven't found "the one" yet, but I have had several long-term and very serious relationships with men who were understanding, supportive, and more than willing to do their part to help me manage my life with CF that I have a hard time worrying about this anymore. I generally tell myself that dating is just like starting up any other relationship (a friendship, for example) - it's about two people forming a bond and choosing to be there for each other. Part of being there for me is being okay with CF, plain and simple. And when I meet a new friend, I never sit around worrying if that person is going to reject me as a friend because of CF...I kind of assume the best about people until they prove me wrong. So I guess my answer is that I tell when it seems natural: I don't go into the first date ready to spill the beans, but if I'm taking enzymes or have a coughing fit then I'll explain why. And at any rate I always tell by a few dates in. It's just not worth it to me to have to "hide" something that factors so heavily into my life, and it's really not fair to either me or my date to do so. Plus it would be kind of funny if they came into my apartment and saw all my medical equipment and I still didn't tell them.

My advice is to have a quick little summary of the disease ready for when you tell them. They're going to want to know what it is if they haven't heard of it, and it's weird when you're caught off gaurd trying to explain it. I normally say that it's a genetic pulmonary disease that I take a lot of medication for and that sometimes limits my phsyical activity, but that it's not contagious and I've had it my whole life (you'd be surprised at how many people don't get that information on their own from the word "genetic") so I'm fairly good at dealing with it. I leave the heavier details for later, although I think they normally google it as soon as they get home, because they rarely ask me for more clarification. I avoid saying fatal and I generally don't go into the digestive issues. Loose stools just aren't aren't an awesome date conversation topic <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

 

[NYCLawGirl]

Okay, at the risk of sounding like some trite hallmark card (and please keep in mind that I am single and have CF as you read this, so I do in fact know how hard it is): there are so many wonderful people out there who are totally willing to date, fall in love with, and marry individuals with Cystic Fibrosis or other medical problems that it's not worth pining away over the ones who can't or won't deal with us. I haven't found "the one" yet, but I have had several long-term and very serious relationships with men who were understanding, supportive, and more than willing to do their part to help me manage my life with CF that I have a hard time worrying about this anymore. I generally tell myself that dating is just like starting up any other relationship (a friendship, for example) - it's about two people forming a bond and choosing to be there for each other. Part of being there for me is being okay with CF, plain and simple. And when I meet a new friend, I never sit around worrying if that person is going to reject me as a friend because of CF...I kind of assume the best about people until they prove me wrong. So I guess my answer is that I tell when it seems natural: I don't go into the first date ready to spill the beans, but if I'm taking enzymes or have a coughing fit then I'll explain why. And at any rate I always tell by a few dates in. It's just not worth it to me to have to "hide" something that factors so heavily into my life, and it's really not fair to either me or my date to do so. Plus it would be kind of funny if they came into my apartment and saw all my medical equipment and I still didn't tell them.

My advice is to have a quick little summary of the disease ready for when you tell them. They're going to want to know what it is if they haven't heard of it, and it's weird when you're caught off gaurd trying to explain it. I normally say that it's a genetic pulmonary disease that I take a lot of medication for and that sometimes limits my phsyical activity, but that it's not contagious and I've had it my whole life (you'd be surprised at how many people don't get that information on their own from the word "genetic") so I'm fairly good at dealing with it. I leave the heavier details for later, although I think they normally google it as soon as they get home, because they rarely ask me for more clarification. I avoid saying fatal and I generally don't go into the digestive issues. Loose stools just aren't aren't an awesome date conversation topic <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

 

[NYCLawGirl]

Okay, at the risk of sounding like some trite hallmark card (and please keep in mind that I am single and have CF as you read this, so I do in fact know how hard it is): there are so many wonderful people out there who are totally willing to date, fall in love with, and marry individuals with Cystic Fibrosis or other medical problems that it's not worth pining away over the ones who can't or won't deal with us. I haven't found "the one" yet, but I have had several long-term and very serious relationships with men who were understanding, supportive, and more than willing to do their part to help me manage my life with CF that I have a hard time worrying about this anymore. I generally tell myself that dating is just like starting up any other relationship (a friendship, for example) - it's about two people forming a bond and choosing to be there for each other. Part of being there for me is being okay with CF, plain and simple. And when I meet a new friend, I never sit around worrying if that person is going to reject me as a friend because of CF...I kind of assume the best about people until they prove me wrong. So I guess my answer is that I tell when it seems natural: I don't go into the first date ready to spill the beans, but if I'm taking enzymes or have a coughing fit then I'll explain why. And at any rate I always tell by a few dates in. It's just not worth it to me to have to "hide" something that factors so heavily into my life, and it's really not fair to either me or my date to do so. Plus it would be kind of funny if they came into my apartment and saw all my medical equipment and I still didn't tell them.

My advice is to have a quick little summary of the disease ready for when you tell them. They're going to want to know what it is if they haven't heard of it, and it's weird when you're caught off gaurd trying to explain it. I normally say that it's a genetic pulmonary disease that I take a lot of medication for and that sometimes limits my phsyical activity, but that it's not contagious and I've had it my whole life (you'd be surprised at how many people don't get that information on their own from the word "genetic") so I'm fairly good at dealing with it. I leave the heavier details for later, although I think they normally google it as soon as they get home, because they rarely ask me for more clarification. I avoid saying fatal and I generally don't go into the digestive issues. Loose stools just aren't aren't an awesome date conversation topic <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

 

[NYCLawGirl]

Okay, at the risk of sounding like some trite hallmark card (and please keep in mind that I am single and have CF as you read this, so I do in fact know how hard it is): there are so many wonderful people out there who are totally willing to date, fall in love with, and marry individuals with Cystic Fibrosis or other medical problems that it's not worth pining away over the ones who can't or won't deal with us. I haven't found "the one" yet, but I have had several long-term and very serious relationships with men who were understanding, supportive, and more than willing to do their part to help me manage my life with CF that I have a hard time worrying about this anymore. I generally tell myself that dating is just like starting up any other relationship (a friendship, for example) - it's about two people forming a bond and choosing to be there for each other. Part of being there for me is being okay with CF, plain and simple. And when I meet a new friend, I never sit around worrying if that person is going to reject me as a friend because of CF...I kind of assume the best about people until they prove me wrong. So I guess my answer is that I tell when it seems natural: I don't go into the first date ready to spill the beans, but if I'm taking enzymes or have a coughing fit then I'll explain why. And at any rate I always tell by a few dates in. It's just not worth it to me to have to "hide" something that factors so heavily into my life, and it's really not fair to either me or my date to do so. Plus it would be kind of funny if they came into my apartment and saw all my medical equipment and I still didn't tell them.

My advice is to have a quick little summary of the disease ready for when you tell them. They're going to want to know what it is if they haven't heard of it, and it's weird when you're caught off gaurd trying to explain it. I normally say that it's a genetic pulmonary disease that I take a lot of medication for and that sometimes limits my phsyical activity, but that it's not contagious and I've had it my whole life (you'd be surprised at how many people don't get that information on their own from the word "genetic") so I'm fairly good at dealing with it. I leave the heavier details for later, although I think they normally google it as soon as they get home, because they rarely ask me for more clarification. I avoid saying fatal and I generally don't go into the digestive issues. Loose stools just aren't aren't an awesome date conversation topic <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

 

[NYCLawGirl]

Okay, at the risk of sounding like some trite hallmark card (and please keep in mind that I am single and have CF as you read this, so I do in fact know how hard it is): there are so many wonderful people out there who are totally willing to date, fall in love with, and marry individuals with Cystic Fibrosis or other medical problems that it's not worth pining away over the ones who can't or won't deal with us. I haven't found "the one" yet, but I have had several long-term and very serious relationships with men who were understanding, supportive, and more than willing to do their part to help me manage my life with CF that I have a hard time worrying about this anymore. I generally tell myself that dating is just like starting up any other relationship (a friendship, for example) - it's about two people forming a bond and choosing to be there for each other. Part of being there for me is being okay with CF, plain and simple. And when I meet a new friend, I never sit around worrying if that person is going to reject me as a friend because of CF...I kind of assume the best about people until they prove me wrong. So I guess my answer is that I tell when it seems natural: I don't go into the first date ready to spill the beans, but if I'm taking enzymes or have a coughing fit then I'll explain why. And at any rate I always tell by a few dates in. It's just not worth it to me to have to "hide" something that factors so heavily into my life, and it's really not fair to either me or my date to do so. Plus it would be kind of funny if they came into my apartment and saw all my medical equipment and I still didn't tell them.

My advice is to have a quick little summary of the disease ready for when you tell them. They're going to want to know what it is if they haven't heard of it, and it's weird when you're caught off gaurd trying to explain it. I normally say that it's a genetic pulmonary disease that I take a lot of medication for and that sometimes limits my phsyical activity, but that it's not contagious and I've had it my whole life (you'd be surprised at how many people don't get that information on their own from the word "genetic") so I'm fairly good at dealing with it. I leave the heavier details for later, although I think they normally google it as soon as they get home, because they rarely ask me for more clarification. I avoid saying fatal and I generally don't go into the digestive issues. Loose stools just aren't aren't an awesome date conversation topic <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

 

[krisgabes]

I think I agree w/ most of the concensus here. After a ton of blank stares I just made myself a little brief summary and spilled it on the first date. I literally remember telling my (now) boyfriend, listen I have a lot on my plate, I explained CF and told him that if he wasn't interested then I suggested that we just stayed friends or he should walk away. And (at the risk of also sounding like a hallmark card) we have been together 3 years now.

It's such a personal thing though, its really totally up to you how you'd rather handle it. I just didn't want to get my heart broken again. My last b/f broke up w/ me b/c of CF. Either way though, I think it's important to put out there relatively early.

 

[krisgabes]

I think I agree w/ most of the concensus here. After a ton of blank stares I just made myself a little brief summary and spilled it on the first date. I literally remember telling my (now) boyfriend, listen I have a lot on my plate, I explained CF and told him that if he wasn't interested then I suggested that we just stayed friends or he should walk away. And (at the risk of also sounding like a hallmark card) we have been together 3 years now.

It's such a personal thing though, its really totally up to you how you'd rather handle it. I just didn't want to get my heart broken again. My last b/f broke up w/ me b/c of CF. Either way though, I think it's important to put out there relatively early.

 

[krisgabes]

I think I agree w/ most of the concensus here. After a ton of blank stares I just made myself a little brief summary and spilled it on the first date. I literally remember telling my (now) boyfriend, listen I have a lot on my plate, I explained CF and told him that if he wasn't interested then I suggested that we just stayed friends or he should walk away. And (at the risk of also sounding like a hallmark card) we have been together 3 years now.

It's such a personal thing though, its really totally up to you how you'd rather handle it. I just didn't want to get my heart broken again. My last b/f broke up w/ me b/c of CF. Either way though, I think it's important to put out there relatively early.

 

[krisgabes]

I think I agree w/ most of the concensus here. After a ton of blank stares I just made myself a little brief summary and spilled it on the first date. I literally remember telling my (now) boyfriend, listen I have a lot on my plate, I explained CF and told him that if he wasn't interested then I suggested that we just stayed friends or he should walk away. And (at the risk of also sounding like a hallmark card) we have been together 3 years now.

It's such a personal thing though, its really totally up to you how you'd rather handle it. I just didn't want to get my heart broken again. My last b/f broke up w/ me b/c of CF. Either way though, I think it's important to put out there relatively early.

 

[krisgabes]

I think I agree w/ most of the concensus here. After a ton of blank stares I just made myself a little brief summary and spilled it on the first date. I literally remember telling my (now) boyfriend, listen I have a lot on my plate, I explained CF and told him that if he wasn't interested then I suggested that we just stayed friends or he should walk away. And (at the risk of also sounding like a hallmark card) we have been together 3 years now.

It's such a personal thing though, its really totally up to you how you'd rather handle it. I just didn't want to get my heart broken again. My last b/f broke up w/ me b/c of CF. Either way though, I think it's important to put out there relatively early.